[deadknite]

in the past iv never had problems makeing partners cum and multiple times, how ever my current partner told me that the only way she is able to orgasm is through vibrators, well needless to say when we did end up in bed a few days later i was compleatly unable to get her any whear near to cuming oraly and or with my hand. any advise or suggestions would be greatly appreciated as i do want to satisfy her.

[LanaBear]

One suggestion, she can stop using a vibrator. Over time vibrators can desensitize some women. The sensitivity will come back, but she needs to stop using it for a while. It is similar to a man overly masturbating then complaining that he has a difficult time reaching orgasm through any other means besides his own hand.

No sense in getting frustrated with it as it will take time. But you two are going to have to be able to openly communicate what she likes and dislikes and how everything makes her feel.

Read through the stickied thread on "Books on Sex" in this forum. Pick up the book, One Hour Orgasm and/or The Orgasm Loop. Read them together, you may find them helpful and interesting.

[stressed]

I agree, she should stop using the vibrator if she wants to enjoy sex more (and she shouldn't lie about it).

It's not your fault, just keep doing your best, don't lose interest and discuss this with her.

[LilahX]

We're all different so you can't expect one woman to respond either to the same degree or in the same way as another. If she's only had vibrator-induced orgasms to date it may take quite a while to do it any other way. Vibrators give intense strimulatioon which is impossible to replicate with either tongue or fingers. Once yr used to that almost instant buzz anything less is going to take a while to even feel.

If you're both patient and persistant I reckon you'll get there.

[mark-clemens]

Read up on woman's bodies. learn where the clitoris and the g-spot are located. Every woman is different but they all have parts that are very similiar, get to know them, then explore and experience your woman's body to find what she reacts to best. I have found a few universal truths, one if you can get a woman to open up about her sexuality, fantasies, and the things SHE enjoys it will greatly help you to pleasure her. Two woman have a LOT more sensative areas than the most obvious, for example I have found caressing and licking of the inner thighs, back of the knees, and the curviture of the lower back to be very sensual and erotic for them. I am also lucky in that I prefer a LOT of foreplay, it's a great way to relax a woman and build her up sexually at the same time. Really great sex is about having a great repoire with your lover, don't be afraid of communication and of trying new things to see what SHE finds sexy and thrilling and the big O's will come, no pun intended