[Hopeless Dork]

First off I was joking about freeing up her busy schedule. By doing these extra things around the house without being asked she will feel less overwhelmed and might not be as tired or resentful.

Its not blackmail, it works both ways. If a women isn't getting emotional support, she isn't gonna want to have sex. If a man isn't getting sex, he isn't gonna want to give her emotional support.

Your stuck in a catch 22.

You do realize that its not just women that need emotional support... most men are not sex robots that just need sex sex sex while the women are baking pies and wanting some flowers in order to put her in the mood for making love... Women are just as sexual as men, but doing the dishes isn't all it takes to get her in the mood... if men are going around thinking all they have to do is take the trash out and compliment their wifes hair to get hot action in the bedroom -- they'd be mistaken. Sometimes in order for a woman to want sex, she has to be turned on, physically, mentally...I think a guy doing sexy things, being sensual and touching and trying to make her orgasm and feel good will lead to a lot more sex than him vacuum'in' the living room.

[oxy-moron]

What Tool and HD are trying to say in their own way is that a lot of the problems may be behavioural. You are not getting sufficient quality time together to click.
Working a heavy schedule will take its toll and couple time often gets squeezed out.
Your mammalian circuitry will think it is not a good time to reproduce because you are not being nurtured by a loving partner.

Common side effects of Anti Anxiety drugs are: Nausea, Nervousness, Headaches, Sleepiness, Sexual dysfunction, Dizziness, Stomach upset and Weight gain.

You would be better served by using diet and excise to fix your anxiety problems. Ten minutes of cuddle or massage time a day would benefit all aspects of your life.

[WildChild]

Studies have found that meditation can be as or more effective for anxiety or depression than meds. And no 'side effects'.

[evaone]

maybe because you are exhausted and tired on every day routine that you do.that is why when you have a free time you just want to relax. but you need to attend the needs of your husband because you have an obligation and one of it is to have sex with him. it's your choice to have this kind of busy life so you must know how to balance it so that no one would suffer.