[TJPatriot]

Going soft was my 2nd issue I encountered when I began my sexual activity. First issue was finishing too fast. It's simply a case of nerves and overthinking. Just be into it and let him know you're enjoying yourself (directly and/or indirectly) and it should be fine after a while. For me part of my issue was I was far too concerned with her enjoying herself, to the point that I would read into any lack of movement/sounds to mean she wasn't enjoying herself, which was an instant mood kill for me. So her being more active helps a lot because it makes it obvious she's enjoying herself. Granted, don't fake it, if you don't want it, say something, but when you want it, make sure he knows.

[seli]

Thanks for the comments. It's good to get other people's perspectives and first hand experience. I'm trying to tell myself it wasn't me!
Do you think I should call him up next because it seems he may be embarrassed to?

[evaone]

maybe he has a problem when having sex, i don't think he is conservative, or maybe he's just nervous or first timer. you know there's a lot of factor to be considered. just ask him and open it with him so that everything would be clear.