[Jimbeau]

^^I like how she thinks.

[Cyndie32]

sometimes simple solutions work the best! lol

[Joe Test Pilot]

The baby lotion is probably not a smell thing as much as a lube thing. Plus it is shinny on the skin and maybe that excites your husband. What ever, it sounds harmless.

About your figure or looks: guys love women for how they actually look versus how the girl thinks she looks. Guys I know are not as pickey as women, we like messed up or not perfect hair, we like blue jeans and t-shirts, we like the women's body, their silouette, their warm skin, their touch. We are visible creatures and are easily excited! We don't care if their hair is not perfect or their clothes match. So give yourself a break on the self judgement thing. I bet your just fine.

About sex: If you get done with sex and THEN realize it was fun, guys know that and we wonder if its so fun how can you forget it so easy? Then we wonder if we can get more tomorrow or if this was just our last time for the month, and its only the 2nd day of the month.

Remember, sex is a free "feel good" activity. Sex releases some "feel good" chemicals in the brain, use it to do so!

Sometimes stress makes you horny, maybe that is his thing. Anyway, spend some naked time together, talk to him, help him masterbate (make it a game to catch him in the act and then help him), ask him to help you masterbate.

I hope you resolve your concerns, goodluck.

[Texasred]

,,,and some people keep baby oil in the shower to combat dry skin.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Don't assume this is where it eats at you....

You use baby oil, or have or else you would not think like this....

A man genually if masterbates, back me up guys can purely do it anywhere, have a towel and do not need lubrication....

And, if you are having sex, then don't stress over additions, I have a great sex life but doesn't mean sometimes I am in the mood and my fiance is at work ( Sorry CD) and in the shower I go or resting, but I don't use baby oil it's in the shower, I use it to shave

CW

[busy_mama_of_4]

A couple of things I wanted to restate to make sure there is no confusion - I'm fine with him masturbating. I know he does it. I do it too. The baby lotion thing bothers me and yes, I threw it out but said nothing. I also threw out all of the empty bottles of shampoo and cleaned out the linen/personal care product closet so it wouldn't look like I just targeted that particular product. Also, sex twice in one month is not normal for us, that's just how it was last month because there was so much illness in our house. Twice in one week is normal for us. My husband could do it twice in one day, so I'm not sure any number is "enough".

I would jump in the shower with him, but with the 1 year old, I can't just leave him running around the house under the care of the older kids. They aren't responsible enough for that yet. Otherwise, I would be in the shower with him all the time! That's one of the things that attracted him to me when we were dating. We played touch football in the mud with some friends and when we got back to my house he started trying to start a conversation to decide who would take a shower first and I just pulled him in the tub with me. I was the first woman who had ever done that he said!

Thanks for the encouragement about my body issues. You're probably right and he probably doesn't see my imperfections. I am very insecure. I just really don't know how to get past that. Maybe I'll try lighting a candle next time.

[Jimbeau]

but I don't use baby oil it's in the shower, I use it to shave

CW

If you're switching the discussion to baby oil that's a whole different ball of wax. Many men associate baby oil with sensual massages and girls in bikinis by the pool. I get turned on just seeing a bottle of that stuff.