Its gonna be 5 months that we are married and I still end up being a virgin. I am not sure if its the fear or that I am not sexually aroused or both. I just don't seem to get in the mood at all. I have tried love food and yup it just got me fattier. So I tried mentally visualing what he would be capable of and yes I ended up begging him to stop. It hurts really bad that I just end up crying. Does it happen to all. He caresses me but the happy feelings only last for a few minutes and the pain starts. We have tried so much and it feels like my marriage barely started but has found a back door to end it all with. how do i get the fear and pain out of me? I had even finished 3 bottles of wine so that I might be drunk enough and have sex but I ended up puking it all out....My mum doesn't believe that it hurts. Can anyone give any suggestions?
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5 months and no intercourse at all? Can you please explain more of how this happens?
Usually there will be stages of romance in the bedroom leading to sex especially after marriage........so what excuse have you told your husband? That you are scared that it will hurt? If that is the only reason, have you done any research on sex as a virgin with your husband at all?
I am sorry but it seems very strange that after 5 months you are asking a forum about advice on sex, you should have done that ages ago....
Have you seen your husband naked? Have you both explored each other without intercourse to become relaxed and aquainted to each other?
Get a how to book or how to video even, plenty out there. Ask your husband to go slow and if it hurts to stop..............take it easy?
Everything hurts the first time, my first injection hurt just as bad as my first ankle twist did. Remember sex is supposed to be a pleasurable experience not painful. Close your eyes, get it over and done with and soon enough it will be like a good playground bouncy castleI am going to tell you what you don't want to hear!
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Are you using lubrication? You did not say you were getting wet, and anyhow, you are probably very tight. Do you have orgasms? Having several orgasms before intercourse will allow your body to be more accommodating. Do you masturbate? Does he do oral sex on you? Do you relax during foreplay?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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