[waya]

(But stop blaming him for pressuring you... he is offering you something that you don't want... but he's not pressuring you).

How do you know?

[kristalyn_04]

(Edit)
He is just being honest, which is actually rare. Of course he wants to have sex. He respects you enough not to seduce you, or promise something that he does not intend.

The question is, do you want the same thing as he does?

The answer is, no.

You are calling it "peer pressure". That means you don't want it. (But stop blaming him for pressuring you... he is offering you something that you don't want... but he's not pressuring you).

You said you wanted to save yourself for something more profound.

Stick with your gut.

I'm guessing you're a guy. Just because he's being honest, doesn't mean he isn't trying to take advantage of her.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

(Edit).

He is just being honest, which is actually rare. Of course he wants to have sex. He respects you enough not to seduce you, or promise something that he does not intend.

The question is, do you want the same thing as he does?

The answer is, no.

You are calling it "peer pressure". That means you don't want it. (But stop blaming him for pressuring you... he is offering you something that you don't want... but he's not pressuring you).

You said you wanted to save yourself for something more profound.

Stick with your gut.

is trying to convince me

Pretty sure trying to convince, followed by she thought he was messing with her then realised he was serious, means he has not casually mentioned it once and once only... So, that in my books means he is pressuring her on top of that, she has obviously spoken to others whom have suggested "Go for it" why? Because they more than likely have lost their virginty regret it and jealousy is a cruel thing...

Who know? We don't judge here.

However, the fact that the OP "Wants to save herself for marriage", I agree, the answer is no, stick with your guns.

CW

[TeenageDream]

Thanks for all the really helpful suggestions. I ended up feeling guilty with myself for letting him even talk to me about having sex. He has known ALL the time we've been friends that I want to remain a virgin. He's tried many times to break me but this was the only time I've ever considered his offer. He did make a few good points about how if we didnt have full-on sex, oral sex would at least give me an upper hand when I'm married. I agreed; however, the question comes up again. Why would I lose anything to my friend? This continued and finally I just told him when I'm ready to have sex, I will but it will be with a boyfriend/fiance/husband, not a guy friend for a quickie. He continues to try and "convince" (as he put it) me that sex with him would be safe and alright. But I just need to keep focus on my own goals. College. Acting. Life. Thank you everybody (:

[kristalyn_04]

Glad to hear it. Good for you for not allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. Good luck with everything!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You did the right thing ....You're doing the right thing....

It's sad when a person hears the word "no" they continue to try to change your mind, see that...Because he is being selfish, thinking only of himself by not hearing "no"....

Even oral can be self taught Think about it .... except naturally the feeling for you, but that too will be beautiful to be felt by someone who loves you and you him...