[blahblahblah172]

So I think the title gives away the problem... I'm extremely attracted to my boyfriend in every way, everything is 'right' and yet I cant seem to reach orgasm when we have sex. and its frusterating for me and him. he lasts 30-60 min on a regular basis. He makes me so horny, lots of foreplay, he has a perfect size penis, he rubs me in the right places before and during sex, and its really GOOD sex. the best I've ever had actually. And I always feel like I am soooo close to cumming ad I just cant seem to finish! We do every position, fast and slow, different kinds of lube and it just doesnt happen.

at first is was like oh well we just need to do it a few times and im sure well get there... and at this point we are wayyy past a few times and its like its never gonna happen
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Any ideas or tricks to get me there... please!!!!!

[Mrs.Mcdonald]

Your situation sounds like what my husband and I are going through! We have been together for 10 years and I have had 1 and I mean 1 orgasm during sex. I can with oral, but I would love that feeling with him. If you figure it out please let me know!!

[Tahoe]

Not cumming with sexual intercourse is common for women, from what I read. When that happens alot of guy go to oral to finish their wife or girlfriend. Have you tried that yet?

[jns]

Maybe better to have him bring you to orgasm several times orally, then go for penetration when you are at the verge of orgasming again.

[Chas]

My wife never comes from intercourse. After 20+ years of marriage, I don't think that's going to change. It's just the way she is built. I'll bring her to orgasm orally, possibly with some help from her Hitachi Magic Wand, and then we have intercourse.

[blahblahblah172]

Yes he does preform oral on me and I feel very close to orgasm but unfortunately that semes to turn him on so much that when we have sex after oral he seems to bust faster! not like immediately.. but its like at the point to which he climaxes thats when I feel mine finally starting to 'build up' haha its so frusterating.. its like man if we could just go a LITTLE bit longer...

I've thought about toys/vibrators ect. but I'd really not like to rely on toys for me to climax with him, if that makes sense. I want just him and me to be able to achiece it.. because i feel at this point he needs that for his own mental satisfaction as well... the other night he's like 'god I just want to make you cum ONCE' .. ahhhh idk what to do.

And now I think I'm 'overthinking' it during sex.. kind of like a watched pot never boils, or how slowely time passes when you watch the clock... well i have a feeling that if I'm just stressing over climaxing its not gonna happen..

Thanks alot for all your input any more ideas/thoughts welcome!

[oxy-moron]

Hi
If you want him to last longer you can try getting him to contract his pelvic floor muscles at moment of Orgasm.
These are the muscles that will stop urine flow.( He might have to build them up using Pelvic floor exercise. Holding and releasing the muscles for 20 second periods several times a day)
When he is about to come he clamps down and stops semen release. He will get the Orgasm feeling but no relief feeling- his penis will stay hard and he will be able to keep going for ages- If he is young enough he should be able to come a second time without going soft. (Note this is not a form of contraceptive)