[fallingwater]

I just had my first sexual experience, with a guy I just met (and know only casually). He was fingering me, but I just did not get off or get wet, even though I was guiding him to the correct location/speed. He tried for awhile, much longer than it takes for me to get myself off, but it just wasn't happening.

Any ideas why? I had had about two beers right before, so I was slightly buzzed, but I don't feel like that was the problem. Any suggestions for what to do if I hook up with him again?

[WildChild]

How much arousal play did you have before he started fingering you? Unless you are old hands at it and even sometimes then, you need to start with looks, words, sensual rather sexual touching, then kissing, he shouldn't be between your legs until you are already fairly aroused. That will make a big difference.

[fallingwater]

Hmm, you may be right. We had been making out for a bit before he started, but I wasn't super aroused yet. However, later on in the 'session' (I had given him a blowjob, more making out, etc.), I was definitely feeling aroused, but still no dice.

For the future, I was thinking of getting myself off before meeting up with him, because then I feel like it would go a lot easier since I would have increased sensitivity... but I feel like that's so artificial.