Okay, so I have this little problem and hope I can change before it becomes a big problem. My guy and I are really great together sexually. however I have this small issue- with the men I've been with in the past none of them have cared about my sexual needs, so I've never talked about what I want, but with the man I'm with now he Wants to know what I like and what "gets me off" and I'm having a very hard time expressing my wants/needs to him. We both enjoy rough play, and I don't really know how to tell him what I really like. It's not that I can't tell him, I just don't know how to put it into words.Any suggestions?
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Suggestion...use your exact sentence but use it in front of him. "I'm having a very hard time expressing my wants/needs to you. I enjoy rough play and I know you do too, I don't really know how to put into words what I really like. It's not that I can't tell you, I just don't know how to put it into words"...and from there insert "but I can try putting some stuff out there because I know you want to learn about what I like, so here goes, I like (insert what you like)".I'm having a very hard time expressing my wants/needs to him. We both enjoy rough play, and I don't really know how to tell him what I really like. It's not that I can't tell him, I just don't know how to put it into wordsThere are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy. -
People express themselves differently, some do it better through actions, some through verbal communication... and some written. The fact that you were able to express yourself here seems like you might feel more comfortable talking about your fantasies and what feels good to you through letters, maybe send him little texts that tell him things you like that he's already done, or things you'd to feel him do.. etc... once you get comfy with the types of things youw ant to say through texts, emails etc... it will become more easier for the words to flow when you talk.Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.Comment
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