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  • Tripp
    Junior Member
    • May 2011
    • 2

    My girl says her clit feels raw?

    My girlfriend and I have been together for awhile. When we first started dating we had oral all the time, (We dont have sex sex because she says it hurts her too bad) im okay with that I dont wanna hurt her so not having penetration is cool with me. She never really played with herself before she got with me, so when she started she did it a lot. With a lot of different things (messagers that are for your back) stuff like that, until i got her a actual sex toy for when I was away.

    We slowed down since the beginning of our relationship, but its weird because last night I was going down on her no toys just normal and she moved weirdly. so I stopped and asked if shes okay and she told me when I go right onto her clit it feels raw but if i go a little above it, it feels good but not as good!

    What can this raw feeling be? We dont do it a lot nor does she use sex toys a lot...
  • kristalyn_04
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 2164

    Try licking a little more gently, and lots of lubrication. Lots of saliva, her natural arousal juices from around her vagina, or lube. She might just be a little too sensitive for direct contact with her clit. Lubrication helps with this, and you can try stimulating her through the hood instead of directly, and be very gentle.

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      The clitoris is often extraordinarily sensitive. Even though there is less sensation, stimulate through the hood instead of directly.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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      • oxy-moron
        Veteran Member
        • Oct 2010
        • 551

        It could also be fungal.
        Pull the hood back and check the clit surface - if it is fungal it will have red and white areas and look a bit inflamed. Same thing can happen with penis head if not maintained with cleaning.

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