[srussell]

Our minds are amazing things, like I said, relax, concentrate on having feelings for him instead, you are both concentrating only on the penetration and what may occur....How can it ever change unless you forget it and go with it and relaxxxxxxx

Well now over the past 3 weeks we've been together 6 times and have really, really taken the advice to relaxxxxx. I don't usually don't drink but the last 2 times we've been together I decided maybe a couple of drinks might help me relax. I was for sure relaxed to the point of being slap-silly-nearly-drunk relaxed. It still hurt when he entered and wasn't enjoyable. We tried again when he was what my girlfriend called semi....and he couldn't stay inside me and stay semi if you know what I mean so again it hurt. My gf suggested a threesome but I nor my bf want that so we're back to square one. Although he says he's not going anywhere, I'm going through thoughts of what if.......I can't take him and he becomes attracted to someone else that might. I'm running out of things to say and seem like now I'm just making excuses for not wanting him in me. Last night I was planning on getting really drunk and letting him do with me what he wanted and he said he wouldn't do that. Looks like I've got a gem on my hands and in my heart. He's so sweet!!! I just want to be able to look forward to whatever comes but so far it's been challenging to say the least!!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I know that women have written here before, of being un-able to accomodate any size, being small themselves, have you seen a Doctor in this regard, can you insert a tampon?

[srussell]

I know that women have written here before, of being un-able to accomodate any size, being small themselves, have you seen a Doctor in this regard, can you insert a tampon?

Yes, I saw a doctor middle of last month and he seemed to think I'm ok and it's just my bf's size. I was thinking, I've had sex with two others that were much smaller and there wasn't a problem so maybe he's right.....maybe I can't take my new bf without it hurting. It is true he is much bigger length and around or whatever you call it, girth. He is big around and I can't hold it and my fingers touch, my last two bf's they easily touched so he is much bigger around. My doctor may be right.

[srussell]

We broke up. No, he broke up with me because he doesn't want to hurt me and that hurt. I just found out that he got ask out by one of my acquaintances, not a friend, just an acquaintance, and he turned her down I hope because he didn't want to hurt me more, at least I hope that's the reason. I don't know, I'm just confused. Could there ever be a relationship/marriage where you don't make love because of pain, I've never heard of that happening? I don't want to go back to my doctor because I think that he thinks I'm whinning. Maybe I'll talk to my mom about this........NOT!!!

[cathy23]

This is what my last boyfriend and I did, -practiced with a dildo. I'd only been with 3 other guys who were all average in size before him. We used lots of lube and he pushed a little in at a time

[DreamP346]

This advise may be a little too late, but go see a sex therapist. Physicians really don't know much about sex. Check out the AASEC website to find one in your area.