[Texinator]

The female orgasm is one of the natural wonders of the world. For women, it's one of the best feelings, and for men, it's one of the greatest sights. So I thought I'd create a thread where we can explore the subject in greater depth.

How about some questions to get the discussion off the ground? So for women who have had one, how important a part of your life is it, and how would it affect you if you were to never have another orgasm again? For those who haven't had one, how important is it for you to experience an orgasm? Meanwhile, for men, how important is it for you that your partner has an orgasm? Do you go out of your way to ensure she has an orgasm, or are you more concerned about your own and leave it up to chance whether or not she has one as well?

[Texinator]

There is an interesting French documentary on Google. Go to Google, select videos, and then type "The female orgasm explained" into the search bar.

[kristalyn_04]

Good thread Tex.

So for women who have had one, how important a part of your life is it, and how would it affect you if you were to never have another orgasm again?

Currently the only way I'm having them is by my own hand(s), since I've been single for quite a long time... but of course still have a sex drive and I need that release once in a while. That's really the only role orgasms have in my life right now, sexual release. Of course that would be different if I was in a relationship, it would be an important part of our sex life, not only to feel satisfied but also as part of the bonding and sharing process. If I couldn't orgasm ever again? Well I think the only way that would impact me is I would be very sexually frustrated lol.

[WildChild]

There are many kinds or intensities to this and yes, it is important.

[ItsASecret]

Not really that important to me. I never was, and may never honestly be, hyper-sexual so I rarely need a "release". If I do try to release by myself then it ends up being an underwhelming feeling taking a long long time to do so it makes it rather boring. But if during sex I do get close to finishing then I am not going to deny that from happening. I will not make it a mission, a requirement, an absolute must to happen during sex because I do enjoy other things and if I happen to finish then great I get a good feeling, if not I do not feel cheated of any 'feel goods' since everything else still makes me satisfied.

[Mes T]

ItsASecret... for some reason would be a lot more shocking to hear a man speak those same words. Interesting, eh?

[Texinator]

What are your thoughts on the subject, Mes?

[Mes T]

Oh right, forgot there were questions.

It's a moderately large part of my life, like chocolate or a nice hot cup of tea. I would definitely "miss" it if it suddenly disappeared, the way I'd miss hugs if they suddenly vanished too. It's a way for me to relax and de-stress, and I hear it's good for connecting with another person too.

[WildChild]

ItsASecret... for some reason would be a lot more shocking to hear a man speak those same words. Interesting, eh?

This reflects some fundamental attitudes about women and men's roles. Women are supposed to get pleasure from providing pleasure to men, her own needs, desires and orgasm are secondary or tertiary.


Men will make comments about women being "brutal" about a man who's sexual performance doesn't measure up, what they fail to see is that honesty doesn't have to equate to brutality. As a society we have functioned and been conditioned to the idea that male sexual needs trump women's needs. Men can objectify women with virtual impunity and no one seems to see what that does to a woman's responses and ability to own and connect with her own body. The idea that a lifetime of non orgasm is ok for women because it doesn't matter to us is totally bogus but we've bought it and help perpetuate it.

[WildChild]

I'm going to a class this weekend on oral pleasure. A friend of mine is conducting it and it is for women only. Many "adult" stores have started offering classes on a variety of sexual behaviors, which I think is great. But and its a big but, there seems to be a decided slant toward more ways for women to pleasure men than for men to pleasure women.

Magazines are another place to look at this. Women's magazines (think Cosmo) are full of "How to Drive Him Wild In Bed" stuff (or how to get him to propose). There isn't much "How to Get Him to Drive You Wild In Bed" stuff. Men's magazines are full of stuff about cars, tools, sports, and women to look at and jack off over. If there is something about dealing with women it's more likely to lean towards how to maneuver or manipulate a woman into giving you what you want, than it is how to get her to the point of trembling with desire and then give her the most intense orgasm ever.

If men gave half the attention to how to pleasure a woman that they give to their other interests it would be a different story. Think of how much time some men spend playing various games, they look up cheats and research how to get through various parts, how to win - can you imagine if they channeled that time, energy and concern into pleasuring women??

If women gave the same attention to their own pleasure that they give to makeup, clothes, nails and other matters of appearance, more of them would be orgasmic.