Why is it that i tend to reach orgasm when im masturbating or watching porn or doing cybersex than having sex with my boyfriend. I mean is it normal? I enjoy having sex with him but then it is hard for me to reach orgasm and i dont even know if i already came or not. What should i do? Any advise?
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Hm... Maybe yall should watch pron togather and while watching it move into foreplay and so on... When my fiance wants to in lack for a better word "finger me" and play with me, it feels good! but out of all honesty I can make myself feel even better and thats because we know our bodies better than the male, just like they know their own better.
Do you tell him what you would like him to do to you? kind of direct him to certain spots during sex/oral? -
He has to learn what turns you on and then be innovative in expanding your orgasms. I believe what you are experiencing is normal. Some women don't know how to give themselves an orgasm or want their bf to do it instead of they themselves. There a curious and innovative bf may know their reactions better than they know them.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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I agree, your boyfriend probably doesn't know how to touch you to make you orgasm. However, you know how to do it very well - so it's your job to teach him. He can't read your mind - he needs your guidance.Comment
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Well maybe ypu guys are right. Sometimes i hate it when guys are so selfish when it comes to sex they tend to think about themselves only and not mind the feelings of their partner. I dunno, maybe i really should teach my partner as to what i really enjoy and what really turns me on in bed.Comment
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Uh... YES you should!
Imagine it the other way around - do you think HE would want to have sex with you if you only thought about yourself and never gave him orgasms?
Men and women should both be free to enjoy sex as much as the other. Now go go go, start teaching!
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