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  • grace1992
    Junior Member
    • Aug 2011
    • 1

    I can't go on top ):

    Ive recently started seeing this guy and the sex is passionate and intimate and amazing. But hes always always on top, I feel really bad but I just can't do it, I don't know what to do, I can never get his penis to go inside me when I get on top and i'm quite big as well which seems to make it more difficult, i'm really worried he will loose his erection as well which is really embaressing for him and me ): I really need some help on what to do, it's not fair on him if hes always on top and I don't want him to get bored. Please help!!!
    xx
  • PinkySweet
    Senior Member
    • Mar 2011
    • 168

    I can never get my fiances penis inside me without his help when im on top. He usually holds it and helps it in... Im sure you boyfriend could atleast do that. It takes practice to get some positions down. Im on the heavier side too, but my boyfriend doesnt loose erection, he just usually holds it to the whole and I sit down... and if you can be on top yall could always try other positions like: doggy, spooning, when hes on top he can put your legs on his shoulders...theres alot of different things.

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    • stressed
      Veteran Member
      • Jun 2009
      • 1914

      Is it bad if they have to hold it to get inside? I've never managed this without help either but I don't think it's much of a problem. I wonder what a man's view would be on that.

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      • Beckers
        Senior Member
        • Jan 2009
        • 132

        Your love-making involves two people, that means you help each other out and work together to make it better and better every time. This often involves awkward situations when attempting new positions. There is nothing wrong with trying something and letting your partner to help you until you get the right penetration or the right rhythm. With a new partner, sex is a work in progress. It's not a big deal for him to hold it while you climb on. And if the sex is as passionate and crazy as you say, what makes you think he will lose his erection? Just go for it. He's obviously into you, and probably wants to see the side of you that takes charge in the bedroom. He'll be into it, and he'll be willing to assist you.





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        • rcoreyus
          Veteran Member
          • Sep 2007
          • 4369

          Since I haven't had this problem I can't tell what is going on - what doesn't work?

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          • Little
            • Feb 2007
            • 4329

            Do you reach down with your hands to guide him in while on top? I find that helps a great deal. As others have mentioned, new positions can be really, really awkward! That's why trust is such an important component to sexual relationships
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            • jns
              Assistant Admin
              • Mar 2010
              • 8398

              Originally posted by grace1992
              But hes always always on top, I feel really bad but I just can't do it, I don't know what to do, I can never get his penis to go inside me when I get on top and i'm quite big as well which seems to make it more difficult, i'm really worried he will loose his erection as well which is really embaressing for him and me ): I really need some help on what to do, it's not fair on him if hes always on top and I don't want him to get bored.
              Please describe the difficulties. Can You reach down between your legs and guide him in?
              I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
              ...
              Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

              From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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