[newmommy532011]

So does anyone have any ideas on how to make him cum faster? I love making love to him for an hour or two, but 4 hours gets uncomfortable for me. Someone help! lol Does this happen to anyone else?

[Guest]

I used to take forever, also, if I even could. Usually I could tell when the soreness started to kick in, and I would relent. Its part mental, part physical. If his PC muscles are strong, it takes a lot to get "there." He is also likely to be assuming it will take him forever, and so it takes him forever. This is the same as a premature ejaculation problem, but in reverse.

I guess all I can offer is that he needs to learn to orgasm faster. For me, if foreplay and teasing is a painfully drawn out event before sex begins, I last a lot shorter. If you can repeat this, he might be able to learn to orgasm quicker out of habit. Also, the "wet platinum" lube in the black bottle is awesome. Using lube when needed can ease soreness, and buy good stuff, not cheap stuff that gets sticky!

[Ashlee T.]

Does he take any meds? Pain pills, depression meds, anti-anxiety meds can cause men to have a hard time ejaculating. My ex was addicted to pain pills. I had no idea he was taking them at all, and would often get so frustrated that he couldn't ejaculate. It started affecting my self esteem. Once we broke up and I found out about the pills it all made perfect sense.

[Mes T]

Just a note, I've merged a few of your threads newmommy into this one, in case you're wondering why this thread suddenly got a bit bigger.

[newmommy532011]

Thank you! :-)

[newmommy532011]

He is not on any meds. he doesn't believe in medication. same thing as condoms and birth control

[newmommy532011]

Thank you for the advice. I will try that. :-)

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm not one to talk in details

But, logically, if you did something , a position that was different where he could view you so to speak, and ask him to take over, masterbate and cum on you, perhaps you may find that he will...

[stressed]

What method of birth control do you use? Is it the pull-out method? Maybe not using birth control affects him mentally during sex and he's concerned about ejaculating without knowing it?

[Hopeless Dork]

As for the he takes to long to cum question: Does he drink or is he on any prescription meds? Sometimes they can delay an orgasm. As for making him go off quicker... maybe try shaking things up a bit to increase his excitement level. First allow there to be some build up in between sessions.. by that I don't mean time-wise necessarily, but flirt, tease, get him all worked up before the main event. The more excited he is before the sex, the better it will feel... the more likely it will be for him to orgasm more quickly.

Also during the main event, try increasing the visual stimulation. Most guys don't masturbate to porn for 4 hours, more like 4 minutes... ( or 4 seconds lol) because the stimulation is intense enough to keep distractions away. To assure he's not thinking of bills or baseball during sex, thus delaying his response... keep him in the moment, talk dirty, put on a little show for him, make sure he can get ample views of the action etc.