I've been with my boyfriend for the past year and a half. Let me start from the beginning...I was married and almost separated before I met my present boyfriend...the only thing we did was see each other and kiss while I was going through the process of a divorce. He didn't want to have sex during that time for several reasons, the fact I was still married, he was sometimes tired, his head hurt, etc....all he wanted was hugging and kissing, which was nice. I NEVER GAVE HIM ANY PRESSURE. Knowing the fact that my boyfriend is a fireman and that he had many girlfriends before and many affaires, I thought that he was respecting me this way. So the time passed, I Divorced after 3 months, moved in "with him" and still no sex.....still the same excuse that he is tired...or some other lame excuse.. I started giving him ...I told him I fell unsexy, not pretty, I started thinking that maybe I'm bad in bed(never had a bad sexual life before) whenever we have sex, he has to come behind....he gets excited with "pornographic positions" , hair etc....whenever I try to have him on top or get on top of him, he doesn't get an erection anymore.....now just recently, he doesn't get excited anymore even in his own favorite positions...he gets mad, and puts his underwear back on and its over.. He has been to a sexologue just 2 days ago....it's been already 3 weeks we haven't done anything.....I'm lost, I don't want to break up with him because he is a great person, funny, loving...but I'm so frustrated about this...
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Boyfriend dosent have sex with me
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I've been with my boyfriend for the past year and a half. Let me start from the beginning...I was married and almost separated before I met my present boyfriend...the only thing we did was see each other and kiss while I was going through the process of a divorce. He didn't want to have sex during that time for several reasons, the fact I was still married, he was sometimes tired, his head hurt, etc....all he wanted was hugging and kissing, which was nice. I NEVER GAVE HIM ANY PRESSURE. Knowing the fact that my boyfriend is a fireman and that he had many girlfriends before and many affaires, I thought that he was respecting me this way. So the time passed, I Divorced after 3 months, moved in "with him" and still no sex.....still the same excuse that he is tired...or some other lame excuse.. I started giving him ...I told him I fell unsexy, not pretty, I started thinking that maybe I'm bad in bed(never had a bad sexual life before) whenever we have sex, he has to come behind....he gets excited with "pornographic positions" , hair etc....whenever I try to have him on top or get on top of him, he doesn't get an erection anymore.....now just recently, he doesn't get excited anymore even in his own favorite positions...he gets mad, and puts his underwear back on and its over.. He has been to a sexologue just 2 days ago....it's been already 3 weeks we haven't done anything.....I'm lost, I don't want to break up with him because he is a great person, funny, loving...but I'm so frustrated about this... -
Give him time to see what the sexologist will tell him. It sounds like he has a physical/mental issue related with sex that you can do nothing about. It may be an erectile disfunction problem, porn-related or even something else mental-related. You have to be patient for a while to see what the doctor will suggest him. -
Guys usually don't change. Has anything changed about this situation?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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