I am a 20 year old female with almost no libido.
I suppose I'll back up. As a teenager (or as young as 12), I had a very healthy libido. I became sexually active at age 18, with my first and only partner, whom I am still in a serious relationship with.
I went on birth control a few months into our relationship (Nuvaring) and have been on it since. I don't believe it to have caused my drop in libido since I was on it for nearly a year when suddenly, out of no where I my libido dropped to zero.
I talked to my doctor who claimed it was a result of my relationship progressing from the fun, new butterflies to a more serious type of relationship. She suggested we take more time and try new things. She also mentioned a healthier exercise and diet should help.
Well I've tried all those things with mixed success. Generally, I've been able to get in the mood and even orgasm but it usually requires a lot of time and effort (sometimes hours of foreplay). I've been unable achieve orgasm from masturbation for over a year now.
My boyfriend has been wonderful throughout all this. But it's still causing a strain on the relationship.
I'm wondering if I should go see a therapist or my medical doctor or simply try something new. I suppose I'm just looking for someone who has had a similar problem and who has (hopefully) overcome it. I know it's not exactly uncommon for women to have lower libidos, but it definitely appears to me that mine is exceptionally low, especially given my age.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance
I suppose I'll back up. As a teenager (or as young as 12), I had a very healthy libido. I became sexually active at age 18, with my first and only partner, whom I am still in a serious relationship with.
I went on birth control a few months into our relationship (Nuvaring) and have been on it since. I don't believe it to have caused my drop in libido since I was on it for nearly a year when suddenly, out of no where I my libido dropped to zero.
I talked to my doctor who claimed it was a result of my relationship progressing from the fun, new butterflies to a more serious type of relationship. She suggested we take more time and try new things. She also mentioned a healthier exercise and diet should help.
Well I've tried all those things with mixed success. Generally, I've been able to get in the mood and even orgasm but it usually requires a lot of time and effort (sometimes hours of foreplay). I've been unable achieve orgasm from masturbation for over a year now.
My boyfriend has been wonderful throughout all this. But it's still causing a strain on the relationship.
I'm wondering if I should go see a therapist or my medical doctor or simply try something new. I suppose I'm just looking for someone who has had a similar problem and who has (hopefully) overcome it. I know it's not exactly uncommon for women to have lower libidos, but it definitely appears to me that mine is exceptionally low, especially given my age.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance
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