[Sarieayala]

I lost my virginity two weeks ago honestly it depends on her and how she thinks. Me personally was exited to please my bf I wanted to try it all I sucked swalloed (cum came out my nose) we both laughed. And even though he was only in town for 3 days (he lives 10 hours away) we had sex 5 times. Try telling her to take controll and that you find it sexy.

[shoshannah]

I lost my virginity to a guy who I love(d) and trust(ed). I was very ready for sex when it happened, and I'm happy that I gave my virginity to him. Even so, it was an adjustment. As a woman I was putting myself in a vulnerable position, running a pregnancy risk (even with birth control there's always a risk), experiencing new sensations which were strange and at first sometimes uncomfortable. For the first few weeks, even months, i would catch myself thinking things at random times like "OMG, I'm not a virgin anymore! OMG I had sex last night! OMG I'm going to have sex tonight!" It just takes getting used to.

My best advice is to let her set the pace and do everything you can to make her feel comfortable both with you and with her new sexuality. Over time she will probably open up.

[avvie_88]

Without reading anyone else's response and going off my gut reaction...

She's probably still nervous to a degree...even if she acts like she just doesn't care. When I'm super nervous, not so much with sexual things, but I tend to have a lot of anxiety is social situations, and TRYING to be liked (for my fiancee's benefit--he's a social butterfly, so I try to have fun when we go out for him) I tend to try to act like nothing phases me. It's absolutely ridiculous, I come across as a total idiot, but sometimes when you're in the situation, it's the best you can do. haha
Also, maybe she's just not a sexual person. Maybe she doesn't know what is ok, you know? Maybe she thinks moaning is tacky and gross...or maybe she thinks she's SUPPOSED to think that.
She obviously seems shy as well. I've always been comfortable with myself, I enjoy porn...but for a lot of women, that's far from the case. It's hard for women to be totally comfortable with themselves... And unfortunately, if you love her, you kind of have to tread lightly and accept that maybe she's not super self-confident.
Are you her first "real" relationship? That could add to her being anxious/uncomfortable--she doesn't want to "lose her cool" in front of you, maybe. I remember being with the first guy I ever REALLY liked. I was 19 and had such a battle in my head between being myself and not acting like a freaking moron.Even with my fiancee, I hate dancing in front of him (sober...haha) because I'm HORRIBLE and I do get a little self-conscious over that. I'd be pretty bummed if he laughed at me (although a laughing response would be totally warranted!) and it would probably make dancing in front of him again NEVER happen.

I wouldn't watch porn with her. It definitely would probably blow up in your face--she just seems too uncomfortable with sex to do that.
Sit her down. Talk to her. Explain what you two do is ok for adults to do. Ask her what she needs from you, what she would like. Have her write it down if she's uncomfortable talking about it. Tell her you just want her to enjoy herself and you need to know how to make that happen.

[jamesmarshalls]

Jns is right, seduce her, step by step.

[Hugo-B]

I lost my virginity two weeks ago honestly it depends on her and how she thinks. Me personally was exited to please my bf I wanted to try it all I sucked swalloed (cum came out my nose) we both laughed. And even though he was only in town for 3 days (he lives 10 hours away) we had sex 5 times. Try telling her to take controll and that you find it sexy.

I LOL'ed when I read the cum came out of my nose in brackets!

[Hugo-B]

All I can say, since I've never been in your situation is to be patient: be sensitive, don't rush her and reassure her about everything. She's shared an experience she can only have once with you, do your best to make her glad she did it with you.

I would think of things you've not done before (nothing too adventurous), discuss it with her then go ahead so YOU can share a new experience with her. She'll like it of she can find something she can do for you that you LOVE, that you've not done with anyone else.

As for her saying she doesn't enjoy sex too much it's likely she's just very nervous, feels like she's being compared to other women and just feels to insecure to admit any of this. I was exactly the same just the gender roles were reversed.

Good luck and tread softly...