[cocoa]

I agree with the others that it is not a FWB situation, if it ever was. There are plenty of guys looking for long term relationships, and you being in your early thirties, I would say you are a prime candidate as you most likely know what you want and that brings stability. Good luck on your search.

thank you

[Hopeless Dork]

FWB is a win-win for the unnattached person, that they can just go and have sex and get back to their day... thats pretty cool for the guy on the go/ woman on the go etc.

FWB is a slow and painful experience for the attached person. Its a self-induced torture of keeping yourself in close contact with someone... building on budding emotions that grow and grow but will very likely lead nowhere. People who are emotionally involved from the gitgo... with a person.. will have emotional reactions to sex... and it will form a bonding. For the person that has no interest in bonding... sex can be just sex and not form an emotional connection no matter how many times it happens.

If all you want is steady sex and have no feelings for a guy, a fwb is not a bad thing. If you have feelings for a man who doesn't share them.. fwb can be like tearing and re-tearing the bandaid off of a broken heart.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Cocoa,

Embrase yourself...You are finding out who you are, off course you are going to meet guys that just want to "win" don't tell them of your past and don't be a FWB unless you want to learn things , that's if they can teach you, make them feel that they have to make the grade no matter what that grade is , by your definition at that time......

This is about you....Not them.......