[Guest]

I know you are still virgin, once you get married you will know what I am talking about.

It is just like having my husband with me in the delivery room, to see me suffer and cry in pain but in the end a beautiful ending to this we both experience together, when we see our baby in our arms.
you go together through the good and bad, which increases your bonds with each other.

...I still don't get it...nor do I want to.

[Irelandlover]

Thanks Iseult and house wife for ur helpful opinions, it cleared a lot of things in my mind..

and I think u should know this that last night it was totally different then the first 2 times, she felt little pain but then after that she coordinated with me very well,she told me this is what she was waiting for from all those years.

the only thing that is confusing me is although the penetration was deep and slow in my point of view (based on the signs that she really enjoyed) however i saw no blood again,,Do u think it will happen next time i mean the 4th time if i go fast????????? or should it be slow?Are there anyother things i need to know to make it more pleasurable for both of us by the way im using condoms with KY jelly lubrication.

I know exactly what you are going through. With the blood a lot of women do not have any blood, don't keep trying until you get some there may not be any! In fact in todays society where girls play sport, run and jump to their hearts content as children many do not have their hyman intact. Some societies actually stop girls from playing sport to preserve it - BIZARRE!! I can remember vaguely as a child coming home from school after sports and having blood on my clothes and my Mum asking me about it and me not knowing where the blood came from - now as an adult I wonder it it was this. I had a lot of pain initially, I went to the docotrs who were useless and made me feel worse. I spoke to a nurse who said to push my bottom into the bed, as not all womens bodies are inside like you see in a biology book so sometimes have to change the angle. Then I realised that although I thought I was relaxed as soon as he went to enter me my head was relaxed but my body wasn't and I dried up because I thought it was going to hurt - and of course it then did. It has only been through time, that the pain has gone, take longer before hand - try a small vibrator - her doing it might be best initially, because then she can feel where it goes... sounds strange but does make sense. Also does she use tampons? that makes it easier. I understand what you are both going through - it is very difficult and the pain is very very strong.

Sounds like things have got better for her which is good though, in terms of fast or slow it is really whatever the two of you like, if she likes it faster and you want to then do that - take time with her and she will think you are wonderful.

Its very special how you have done things - good luck.