[ishka82]

I have been with my boyfriend for about a month now and we started having sex. He is the first guy that I have ever had sex with, so I have a question just to see if it is normal. First off he isn't very long but he is thick, it seems that he slips out of me a lot when we are having sex, is this normal? Thanks

[DreamP346]

Totally normal. It has a lot to do with how fast he is moving, how much be is pulling out before pushing into you again. Is this his first sexual relationship as well? He may not be used to the lenght of his penis and pulling out too much. It can also happen if he goes soft while inside of you. Non of this is concerning as long as both of you are enjoying it.

If this starts hampering you sexual enjoyment, then that's another issue.

[lizzardb63]

Yep, I feel this is normal as well. Either too fast, or maybe he has to take shorter strokes in and out of you. The more you have sex, the easier it will get. You'll get used to each other's bodies and it won't happen as much. Even sometimes in porn they slip out and they are supposed to be "professionals". lol As long as you enjoy it, it's no biggie!

[maleview]

Once he slips out a few times and misses the target coming back, he will learn to shorten his stroke pretty quickly

[lizzardb63]

lol maleview, so true! It scares me sometimes when that happens though, I don't want my fiance to injure himself!

[skirt99]

Hi,
Have you been on top yet. In this position, it's much harder for him to slip out. You can control his penetration and also get wonderful clitorial contact. Try "riding." I think both of you will like it.

[ishka82]

Once we had sex with me on top, but I felt like I didn't know what to do. I am bigger than him and felt awkward being on top. Maybe once I get more comfortable with it, it will be better.

[lizzardb63]

ishka82, I've been with my man for almost 2 years and I STILL don't know what to do on top. It's just awkward. I'd rather do doggy style, laying on our sides from behind, missionary, or laying on our stomaches (him on top from behind). Perhaps I should try it again, its been quite some time since I've been on top, but if you know what you like...you know what you like

[DreamP346]

I found being on top required practice. Being on your back is easy since he does all the work. I didn't use to like it because I was lazy. But once you learn to move without exhausting yourself, it was really great. I feel I can look at my partner. He can touch me. Easiest thing to do is lean forward and brace yourself with you arms. Place your hands on his side or shoulder/chest and move your hips up and down. Also, you can grid yourself into him. This works really great for your clit stimulation.

There are several variations on this, but this is the basic. I've heard many men like is when a woman is on top because they can really see their partner.

Everything is trial and error. If it feel awkard, laugh about it and just enjoy. It will all come with time.

[ishka82]

So when on top what do you do? Do you go up/down or side to side? I guess I just don't know what to do.