[miss.nedra]

plz give me advice that doesn't make this situation as creepy as it seems. I recently just had a baby girl, and i really tried to breastfeed but was not able to produce enough milk, so we began bottle feeding. He was really pushy on the breastfeeding. He watches porn all the time, and now he has started watching women nursing their baby's. What does this mean? I am really creep-ed out

[GnR]

I am equally creeped out. Is he getting off on this? That is extremely weird, but what really weirds me out is that if he's getting off to other women breastfeeding, would he want to get off to you breastfeeding? I'm assuming this is his kid? Which makes it very strange...

[miss.nedra]

Yes it is his daughter. I have no idea if hes getting off to it, he does this while im in bed. The only reason i noticed was because he has been using my youtube account!!
How and should i approach him about this?

[GnR]

I definitely think you should ask him about it. And since he was using your youtube account I think it's completely fair for you to call him out on it. Maybe just be like "I was on my youtube account and it keeps suggesting videos of women breastfeeding, have you been watching these videos?"

[DreamP346]

Every person gets off by different things. Its not weird to be sexually excited by things that may seem out of the ordinatry to another person. So don't think looking at breast feeding is something disgusting that you need to be worried about.

However, this seems to be something that is bothering you. Just ask your partner about it. Don't do it in an accusatory way, but just ask if his finds it sexually exciting to him. Talk to him about it openly. It could be anything for curiosity (wondering why how some women can do it and other's can't), a sexual thing he desires, a fantasy, etc. You just don't know. Openly talk to him about how it makes you feel. Are you OK with him watching porn? If not, then that's what needs to be discussed. If you are, then ask yourself why breast feeding is so disturbing to you to be sexual and if you can overcome that feeling. The key here is communication instead of assuming what he is thinking.

[lizzardb63]

Just to give him the benefit of the doubt, do you think that he finds it important for you to breast feed? Do you think maybe he is watching for educational purposes to possibly try and help you? Just trying to be the devils advocate, lol. Or, maybe it's a fetish of his. If he hasn't asked to watch you in a sexual way doing that, I wouldn't get TOO creeped out about it. Some guys do have fetishes. I would just politely ask him how GnR said to. As long as he doesn't act on watching other women breast feed in person, I don't think it would be a problem (and as long as it isn't consuming all his time watching this online).

[LanaBear]

Everyone has a fetish of some type or another and actually ANR's (Adult Nursing Relationships) are a lot more common than many people think. Somewhere in the deep recesses of WH there is a thread on it.

Like others have said, you need to discuss this with your partner. If this is a fetish of his, maybe you can indulge? If not, tell him you are uncomfortable with it and move on.

Seems pretty harmless to me.