[Xjessicaaa08]

I am a 21 year old female and I'm in desperate need of suggestions!! As much as I enjoy being intimate with my partner, I have close to NO sex drive. I think it has something to do with being extremely stressed out, working two jobs and on birth control (Microgestin 1/20)! I feel like if you're intimate with your partner, it plays a huge roll in your relationship. I wish I would want to be sexual more often, I just have no idea what to do to boost my sex drive!

[lizzardb63]

All of which you listed (Stress, over worked, birth control) have a huge impact on your sex drive. The only things I can suggest are trying to do some things to relieve some stress (Sex could help with that, lol), perhaps going out and doing something fun, giving yourself a rest and relaxation night, take a little mini vacation. You can also buy yourself a new piece of lingere (will make you WANT to use it) and it makes you feel sexy. You could try to change your birth control, but I think the majority of hormonal birth controls have an effect on women as far as low sex drive goes. I knwo when I was on the pill I had no desire for sex and it was hard for me to get wet.

Being intimate does play a huge role in your relationship. It builds a secret bond between the two of you and its an expression of how you feel towards one another. I would talk to your partner about this so he is clued in on what's going on. It's always helpful to communicate how you're feeling to your partner. This will help any confusion that might arrise on their part.

[DreamP346]

Couldn't have said it better than lzzardb63. Making time for yourself is easier said than done. You really have to plan and sometime just say "heck with all the work." Working out helps too. Increasing blood flow boosts sex drive and energy level. I am a planner and love to multi tasking. Take showers together. Turn off the TV and enjoy just being together. Try different things in bed. Sometimes I read about what other couples do on this forum and its makes me want to try it with my husband.

Also, do you enjoy sex? Meaning, you don't desire it, but once you start, you enjoy the end product? If you don't enjoy sex, then that is another issue, but if its just a desire issue, take time for yourself and slow down. Talk to your partner about it and maybe he can try different things to boost your desire.