[suntan]

I am now with a woman, in fact my disciple. She is just 21, a spinster. She lives with a brother, and he mostly lives in the city and she alone in her small house. By chance I happened to come across her. We chatted for a long while and kissed and caressed each other and now I am almost on the verge of having sex with her and yet I dread pregnancy. She said she has pills and yet I am unsure whether it works hundred percent and if it will not both of us will be gone. I cannot avoid the sex since I am aflame with passion and cannot assassinate my instincts. You ladies may be well experienced about this stuff and let me know generously any precautionary measures that really work to keep her from being pregnant and I will really be obliged

[ItsASecret]

If you have sex there is always the chance of sperm meeting egg. Only abstinence is the true form of no pregnancy. Birth control pills are extremely effective if they are taken exactly as directed meaning no missing, skipping, losing, or purposefully not taking pills. The effectiveness of them if they are used correctly is in the 98-99.xx% range. That does not mean it is impossible to become pregnant but it is quiet unlikely. Use a condom in addition to knowing that she is on the pill, it will ease your mind as that combo drastically reduces the off-chance of pregnancy.

[suntan]

In fact I find I find a condom cumbersome and I want to have the touch of it and the condom comes in between and it is not smooth sex with it. Skin to skin is phenomenal. She said she will use pills. I have not had sex with her and will have soon and I am just thinking about it? Is there any other effective contraceptive?

[ItsASecret]

That is as effective as a birth control? No. As long as she keeps up taking the pills exactly as directed there is little cause to worry. If you are still feeling iffy about the situation then pull out before you cum.

[suntan]

Does not it spoil the act of sex? In fact I want to have total sex. I have not got a sexual intercourse with a lady even if I am already 31, though I have masturbated many times and I do not to do anything to diminish the excitement of it and I do not think I can pull out before I cum. Can males take some tablets?

[Nholland]

As far as I know there are no pills on the market for men yet, if u hate condoms and don't want to pull out you could use spermicide, its not extremely effective but added as back up to the pill you should be fine. As far as pregnancy anyway, you haven't even mentioned protecting yourself from STDs, and condoms are the only way to go. And if you haven't had intercourse w a woman ever a condom will help you to last longer, which I'd highly recommend.

[DreamP346]

Make sure your partner has been on the pill at least 1 month. It doesn't work immediately. Definitely use a condom. Your first time doesn't have to be a time to experience everything. Just enjoy the fact of being with another person. You can slowly progress into doing other stuff and maybe sex without a condom. Its good that you are talking to each other about it first. Communication is what makes it special and both of you can enjoy more. There are things you can do without a condom, but for the intercourse, I highly recommend using a condom.

[lizzardb63]

I understand that you like the feeling of not having anything between you two, but you also need to think about STD's (Sexually Transmitted Diseases). I would suggest using a condom anyway until she has been tested and you're both in a monogomous relationship.