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  • Boyfriendwantshelp
    Junior Member
    • Jan 2012
    • 1

    My girlfriend has never had an orgasm and im having trouble giving her one

    My girlfriend and i are very much in love and our sex life is great. The only problem is that shes never had an orgasm. Shes only had one other partner before me and shes beginning to think its impossible. I go down on her regularly and i tease her before i go all the way down. I finger her while licking her clit. She loves it hard and deep and sometimes shell even push my fingers in even deeper. Shell even shove my face into her clit and she goes crazy while im down there. I love doing it because she twitches and moans and her muscles spasm but she never cums. I was wondering what i can do to make her squirt. She loves everything i do to her and thats the main reason i do it but i really want her to cum everywhere and so does she.
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    I think you are mixing up female orgasm with female ejaculation. Look both terms up. Can you find her g-spot?
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • LanaBear
      Veteran Member
      • Jul 2009
      • 8373

      I completely agree with JNS...

      The two are completely different... It sounds like she is indeed having an orgasm, but not all women can squirt/ejaculate. If you want to try to explore this, I recommend the below two books. Pick them up and read them together, then have fun. Also, do a thread search, there are a million on them regarding this.

      Unleashing Her G-Spot Orgasm : A Simple, Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving Ultimate Sexual Ecstasy by: Donald L. Hicks
      and
      Female Ejaculation : Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm by: Somraj Pokras, Jeffre Talltrees

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      • Butterflyy
        Member
        • Jan 2012
        • 19

        It does sound like shes having orgasms. And quite enjoying herself, and I think that's really all that matters. I can understand you wanting some sort of physical proof of her enjoyment, but she obviously is getting quite into it even without cumming. I would also recommend reading or researching about oral and the likes, you will most likely find a way to really take her pleasure to the next level. You two should also explore together, make sure the two of you are communicating about what feels good and such as well.

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