I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and sex has always been an issue. Certain positions such as doggy style and others where I'm not in control are so uncomfortable it makes me want to cry! After visiting my gyno for a yearly checkup, she told me I have a tilted uterus and that is why sex is sometimes painful. I'm all about pleasing my boyfriend and making him happy so I do it anyway but I just can't relax and take the pain! Is there any advice y'all could give me?? Thanks so much!
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Use the positions you are comfortable with, with the agreement by your bf after you tell him the reason. Get a book on sex positions and try to find more that are agreeable. Did your gynecologist make mention of having orgasms prior to intercourse to make your body more accommodating?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
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I have a tilted uterus too and I find doggy a little painful too. Its actually very common, about 25% of women have it. Don't try to take the pain unless you are enjoying it. You will start to resent sex and eventually your bf. Tell him what works. Get a book on positions. There are so many, taking out doggy style from your repetoir will not matter. Maybe this can be a quest to find all the new positions that work for both of you. That should make it more fun.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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Yeahhhh...Ive got a tilted uterus too...and it SUCKS. Doggy really hurts!! I like being on top. That way I control what is happening!Comment
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I wonder if I have a tilted uterus! Doggie style makes me feel like my insides are being ripped apart!! I can start out in that position, and tolerate it, but if we go from missionary to that position in the same session, it feels like it's being torn. SO PAINFUL. Also, cowgirl style is painful too. I find that having an orgasm before intercourse helps me to relax a lot (and I can orgasm a second time much easier). Try getting yourself off or having your boyfriend get you off before intercourse. It might help those muscles relax!Comment
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Having had nothing for many years I can't really recall, but I do remembers doggy being painful, infant even with my toys if I lay on my back with my legs up it hurts like ****, flat and boring does the tick. How do you find out if you have a titled uterus? Sorry to ask on your thread.
But in response to your issue, if it is hurting you, you can't be enjoying it, I'm sure your partner loves that you love to ge this off, but you have to take some pleasure yourself.Never judge on face value, never assume someone is ok, because to you they look it. Enjoy life and what you have, don't take it for granted, not everyone is as lucky as you.Comment
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