[DawnOwl]

I believe that i am asexual, but i am not 100% sure. i have had 2 relationships, and in both of them i did not enjoy sex and i have the same result when i infrequantly masterbate. i can get "horney" but when i am faced with the actuality of sex i get stressed and pretend i am somewhere else. i have never had an orgasm, even when i have tried to relax. i took this test on okcupid and my results were non conclusive.

does anyone else feel the same way? and is this even asexuality?

help i am confused...

[Claret]

In it's broadest sense, being asexual means being non-sexual. It can, however, also describe those that have a) no interest in relationships of a sexual nature with others, B) someone that performs sex only for the pleasure of their partner and not for their own pleasure or C) someone that performs sex only for the release it provides them. I'm sure there are other instances as well, but the question really is How do you see yourself?

[jns]

I do not view myself as asexual. I do not view you as asexual, just with anxiety and a relatively low sex drive (libido). It is possible you will have a change in your sexual nature and either become more sexual or non sexual. It would be best to work on your anxiety if you want your sexuality to be it's greatest at the present time. Try relaxing and thinking sexy thoughts, the ones that help you when you masturbate. Become comfortable with your sexuality. When the time is right to enter a relationship again, make sure it is someone who is very patient and wants to see to your satisfaction sexually.

[DreamP346]

There is a very small population of people that identify as asexual. They do not feel any sexual feelings at all. They do not get aroused, they do not fantasize, what to have sex in any way, they are not physicially attracted to anybody. They could be emotionally attracted to somebody.

You do not sound asexaul. I would definitely say go to a sex therapist. Check the AASECT website to find one near you. There are issues of anxiety and around learning about your body. Also, there may be social, cultural and religious facts that accept your sexuality. Past unpleasant sex experience. There is so much that would be affecting your sexuality.