[lala90]

From what I gather quite a few women get pain during sex, so I have written about my problem below to see if anyones got any advice:

I am 22 years old and it really really hurts every time I have sex with my boyfriend.

We've been together for 2.5 years and its beginning to affect our relationship because he hates hurting me. Its gradually started hurting more and more since we've been together. Its a really sharp intense pain about 1 inch in and the pain stays for a while. Sometimes it goes but other times we have to stop cuz it hurts so bad.

I've been to the doctor about it - it was similar to the pain from a speculum but on a wayyyyy less level. She said she thought i had vulvodynia but I am not sure as the pain isnt at the front its more inside. She tried me on amitryptiline but i was having so many side affects I couldnt continue. I read about other conditions like vaginisthmus but its fine when I put a tampon in. I didnt know whether it is because I am not used to penetration (as we dont have sex much anymore) so bought a vibrator but that hurt bad, exactly the same.

I used to think it could have been because of dryness but when weve used water based lubricants, the pain still hasnt gone away despite it being smoother. We have plenty of foreplay and I am fully like turned on and in the mood.

Does anyone know what it is or what could help? Would be grateful for any suggestions, its really getting me down

Thank you for your help xxx

[jns]

There are many reasons for pain. If your bf is penetrating in a way to hit your cervix, it will cause pain. That could be exacerbated by a tipped uterus. Using different positions could help.

Is the pain on the front side, the back side or the right or left wall of the vagina? The g-spot is supposed to be about an inch in on the front wall. I wonder if it could be too sensitive.

I take it you use enough lubrication. Tell us what the doctor has ruled out (such as fibroids) so we can consider what it could be.

[DreamP346]

If you think it is vaginismus, please go see an expert because this may be something you will have to deal with for the rest of your life and you want to find ways to manage this immediately. There are other types of vulva pain besides vaginismus as well. Your sounds more like dyspareunia. Sometimes a physicial therapist who specialize in sexual health can also help. You need to see a specialist. Your regular doctor won't know anything about this issue. They never learned it in medical school and is basically treating you based on assumptions. Unfortunately there are not many people who specilize in this area. I know a few in CA, NY and PA. You may have to travel to a larger city find one. Don't rely on your regular doctor. I do continuing education for doctors and they tell me how they know nothing about sexual health.

Let me know if you need help locating a specialist in your area.