[Amber]

I just got two g-spot toys. One is a vibrator but I don't know if they both are. What actually is the g-spot. Where is it in your virgina and why is it more sensitive than other areas? I never tried to find it before.

[SaharaJim]

It is a "sensitive" nerve spot aproximately 11/2 to 2 inches inside the vagina on the side facing your front.
It probably ties into the same "nerve plexis" as the clitoris. Generally it becomes much more "sensitive" to stimuation after the "first orgasm".

[Amber]

SaharaJim, when you say first time, do you mean first time ever or maybe first time on the night? Unfortunately, you are talking to someone who has never had an orgasm. I was thinking maybe somehow I could reach an orgasm with my g-spot but maybe that would be a lost cause.

I'm trying this all through masturbation. There is no guy in the picture.

[SaharaJim]

Sorry I was "unclear". I ment the second orgasm. Generally the g-spot reacts to becme "more sensitive" after sex has "excited" it. I my opinion sex of any sort; including masturbation, is 90% mental. Physical stimulation is "necessary; but what triggers the response is in the brain. Which is NOT to say that you "have to" have an orgasm before it can be an excellant place to "stimulate". I don't know what is preventing your "response" but for many people it is what is or is not going on in their head. Perhaps you might try examining your mental state. Are you concentrating on the physical act or is your mid roaming over what you find "exciting"? You might try some mental fantasies that excite you and run them to the point of physical contact and then began "stimulating yourself". If you just "jump in" you may be "desensitizing" your clitoris before you even begin to respond. Start slow and then "build up";
but what is going on in your mind is the thing that will control your having an orgasm..or not.

[jns]

I am of the opinion that the precursors to orgasm are both physical and mental. They are relatively matched, but the overabundance of one type of stimulation can make up for the other to a high degree. I believe the medical and the psychology/psychiatry communities have missed the boat in the past by blaming most of things like erectile dysfunction on the mental state of the patient. I consider a woman not being able to orgasm to be nearly analogous to ED. Sure, a new and exciting change of partners can cause a chemical release that can overcome things such as low testosterone, but such things are not likely to last. And there are other ramifications to this approach. If porn is used as a substitute, more and more extreme porn may be required to get the same response over time.

Amber, you have gotten close in the past with fantasies from a scene in The Titanic. Have you been checked for your testosterone level? One of the other posters found that her testosterone level is low and that may be part of the problem she has been having for about 7 months. Have you had a full screening by a doctor that specializes in sexual dysfunction especially female sexual dysfunction? Such a doctor may have special insights.

Some women have said they squirted from g-spot stimulation, but did not experience anything near a clitoral orgasm. Others said they had mind blowing orgasms.

[DSemcho]

Technically there is no "G Spot". What is actually being hit is the back of your clitoris. There are actually different parts of your clitoris. There is the part that sticks out and is usually messed with during sex, and there is also the part that is unseen and kind wraps around your actual vagina (the part where the penis goes).

[Peacheskreme]

I found this c type toy that is meant to hit the G spot. It has a broad area on the inside and doesn't go very far in, but does the job. It works even better with good music and some mental pictures or porn. LOL. Slow deep pressure pushed to the front works for me. add in a little finger action and no man is needed for this session.

I"m married and of course I don't really use this toy ..my man has some insecurites with toys and him in the bed. I keep the ones that go inside me in the drawer.