[Kristah]

Ok I feel weird asking this but my husband and I have been married for 5 years now. I was on the Depo shot or pregnant the whole time, I only have one kid but was on the depo the rest of the time. But it seems like our sex drives have always been off. For four years it was me and I know that, I was on the Depo and had a newborn and working. It was a lot of stress and the last thing I wanted was sex. Now my child is a little older and I am not constantly having to get her everything, she can go potty on her own, grab snacks, and drinks. So there is not a lot in that aspect. I am still working but also I have been off hormonal birth control for 3 weeks now. My husband and I do have opposite schedules now as well but my sex drive is was up and I mean WAY up. Hes not here and when he is he doesn't seem to want to have sex. I know he is masturbating because the porn is still on when I wake up.
I guess I just have a fear that over those 4 years he got use to not having sex and now that I want. I even drop all types of hints he doesn't seem to see them or care. It is Like he respected me for so long that its just became part of our life, but I am so horney all the time now. I am 22 and he is 25 so there shouldn't be anything medically wrong. How do I get him re interested is I guess my question.

[Whispa]

To be honest, I know where you are at, I'm in similar situation, it's been 4years since I didn't anything at all, now I'm feeling like I want to and he's not interested or brushes me off. He's either at work or too tired to do much, he comes in falls asleep wakes up for dinner, plays on the computer, cuddles the cat then goes to bed. I can't contain the excitement. Personall I went tot he Ann summers shop, which seems to help me, for now, maybe if your husband know your mastrubating too he might be interested or want to participate?
Do you have any physical contact at all, does he kiss you, hold you're hand when you're out? Anything at all?
At your age I was horny all the time as well, but I have a medical condition, and it kinda made me adverse to people touching me at all, hence my issue. But if you on the other hand have some physical contact with him still, then there's opportunity there. Maybe he's mastrubating because he's stressed, or because he worries about you're child disturbing you both?
Is he sleeping I your bed, because then there's opportunity there as well if you snuggle up to him and wander? Have you tried that, or even talking to him straight about how you feel?
Thing is with talking, they don't always say what you want to hear, mine didn't, but least it's out there now.
Good luck, and go buy some toys, least you can relieve your own tension for while.

[DreamP346]

Don't drop hints. Be outright forward. It may be that he is just not used to getting sex from you, so he doesn't realize that those little hints mean you want sex. Have you said, "lets go to bed and make love"?

[Kristah]

He comes to bed every night, he gives me a kiss every night when he get home and sometimes accidently wakes me up because of it,and apologizes. He takes me out to dinners so hes still being romantic in that nature. I have been straight forward before and that's when we have had sex, but do i seriously have to be straightforward every time? I guess so. I guess its so hard because he works 2pm- when he gets off usually 2 or 3am, and I have to be up at 7am. I have woke up and snuggled with him because he likes to be held and that has started something before I am scared he wont get enough sleep if I wake him up though.

I guess its not as bad as I thought since there is some romanticism there and we are still having sex just not as much as he wanted in the beginning. Thank you for your replies.