[AshB$]

How did that go for everyone else?
For me, the whole situation hurt like a.. lol It felt good, but it hurt. I didn't let him go in all the way because I worry about being stretched out and I've heard bad stories. He also came inside me which I was fine with. But when I decided to get it out later while I was alone, it burned so bad. My whole anus burned for over a week. And this is really sad, but I can't remember if I became constipated or couldn't stop pooping afterwards.. That's really odd I cannot remember haha.
Anyways, I was wondering, did it burn like it did for me?

[Element]

I've never had it burn before. It only hurt once afterwards when we went a bit rough and I had bled a bit. But my boyfriend is always careful to wait to 'get going' until I let him know I've adjusted enough to let him have control.

Try starting off with him only putting the head of his penis in, then he doesn't move. At all. Period. From here it's your call. Take a few slow calming breaths and relax your muscles. Depending on his size, it'll hurt for only one minute. The key is for you to be relaxed and not tensing those muscles back there. Once you feel like you're acquainted and the pain has dulled down, then slowly push back onto him; him still not moving. You set the pace, you set the rhythm, you say how much he goes in. As you get going the pain dissolves and you can give him the go for him to start moving with the pace you've set. If you find you'd like to change things up or speed up, then just tell him.

Not all women enjoy anal sex, but for you to really know, I suggest you taking control of the experience. The easiest position I've found is laying on your side with him behind you. This way he can very easily reach around and play with your chest or clit. The stimulation helps a lot.

[Guest]

Lube, Lube, Lube !! Patience, Patience, Patience !! Communicate, Communicate, Communicate !!

Use lots of lube, together, take your time and communicate frequently...

Like so many other acts, anal sex - IMO has been misrepresented especially bad by the porn industry.
I find it to be different every time my SO and I partake in it and the key to her/our pleasure are the three items I mentioned to open this reply.

While that area of the body is not self lubricating, there are lots of nerve endings in and around the anus. So assuming you are relaxed and your partner is as well, it can be a very enjoyable part of your intimacy.

Like almost anything, it just takes practice and lube...

[acerousme]

Yeah, I've never had it burn...but when he did cum in me, I felt like I was going to poop myself for a few hours.

Like seeker said...LUBE. Lube is the wingman for anal sex. Then patience walks in, and lube does his job, gets his member in, and patience brings in the conversation....

I've had it hurt once...I actually bruised my colon. So, lots of lube, patience, and communication, and things will be good.

[IttyBenten]

My first time was very pleasant, as first times go. I have a very understanding boyfriend who took his time with me and was very kind and understanding when I asked him to please be gentle and to take his time.
We did not have any lube available. However, as I said, he was patient and we went at my pace. Once I had reached one orgasm, this went much, much more smoothly and we continued with no difficulty. Afterwords I experienced minimal burning since there were tears. It was my first time, it's natural. I've had worse experiences since, but definitely, the best advice is -always- lube and patience.

[pladybug0912]

I am also new to trying anal. I was with my man and we tried, but had no success. BUT, we had not intended or ever thought or spoken of anal..it just happend. The next day I started googling and I found a site for men posting about anal and it was a big big help! I think it may have been Askmen.com ... no sure at the moment.

I read and did everything step by step by myself as suggested on the site. And yes...lube lube lube is the key! I also found that when I get myself all worked up using my vibrator in my vagina first, it makes it easier to try anal. (keep in mind I have only been at this a couple of days)

I start off getting exciting vaginally, then i lay on my side (seems to be the best position) and use my finger to help get me started. Again...lube...and as the article stated that I had read - keep applying the lube! The first day I was able after some time playing, to insert about 2 inches of the dildo toy. It is about 1.5 inches across the base, 4 inches diameter and 6 inches long. It didn't happen right away, but I have been able to take it all in which shocked me! Length is not a problem once you get past the few couple inches.

After being able to do this I was excited and wanted to try with my man again, but I am unable to take him in. he is 6 inches in diameter and I just can't seem to get him past the first few inches. Being new to this, are there any suggestions for getting a bigger size into me?