[AshB$]

I am well aware many women have this problem. I have once orgasmed during vaginal sex. He was behind me and we were on our sides. But never again. I can make myself orgasm, but he has a dificult time with it in general. The way he figured out was the lick my clit and finger me at the same time. It works. Sometimes it takes a while though.
Has anyone figured out any tricks to orgasming during intercouse? I feel like it'd be so special and romantic if we can make that happen. Also, what could help me orgasm easier maybe? There have been times we've sat there for over 30 minutes, him licking, touching me. And nothing. I feel like he get irritated and it makes me feel bad. Help?
Thanks.

[Hugo-B]

Taking the pressure off will help both of you. A ton of foreplay so you're close to the brink before the sex can't hurt either. I always just reached for the rampant rabbit if my GF needed any assistance... or I came first (I was relatively inexperienced when we met). I think a relaxed attitude free from pressure is the key to letting things happen of their own accord. Great things arrive when inhibition, insecurity, and pressure leave.

Maybe one of those clit vibrator massager things whilst he's inside you will make things a little less 'technical' for him. It needs to be fun for him, it will get tiring and frustrating if he believes he's not 'succeeding' in getting you off.

Just to clarify, if he was stimulating your clit whilst fingering you, when you came it was a vaginal orgasm, not a clit orgasm wasn't it? The clit stimulation assisted the vaginal orgasm; am I correct in thinking that?

[kathyn]

Maybe you should focus on the stimulation his penis gives you when you have sex and you may cum from this?

[Hugo-B]

I hope this doesn't count as a thread hijack...

Does having a g-spot orgasm, as opposed to a vaginal orgasm, through vaginal/penetrative sex count as climaxing through sex? I would say yes it does, but I'm a man.

ladies, you're the jury on this one...

[AshB$]

I'd guess so. But for me, when I "get off" via gspot, it never seems like an orgasm, it's just ejaculation. lol

[Chelsen]

I have a similar issue. I have never had an orgasm internally through intercourse but have plenty of orgasms from clitoral stimulation. I feel like I have been close when we have had sex at times but then I start focusing too much and it's gone. What I do when my bf and I have sex is use a vibrator to get off. It's still magical because I can time it where we get off together and my bf doesn't mind because he only cares that I am satisfied. I would try that out and see how it goes! Good luck!

[Carpe Diem]

I have a similar issue. I have never had an orgasm internally through intercourse but have plenty of orgasms from clitoral stimulation. I feel like I have been close when we have had sex at times but then I start focusing too much and it's gone. What I do when my bf and I have sex is use a vibrator to get off. It's still magical because I can time it where we get off together and my bf doesn't mind because he only cares that I am satisfied. I would try that out and see how it goes! Good luck!

I'm a guy like your boyfriend: as long as my wife is satisfied, I'm satisfied. If that meant having to use a vibrator, or whatever, I'd be fine with it. My wife and I currently don't do intercourse (not because she can't have an orgasm that way, she can. But since she went through menopause she's finds it painful). And really, I could care less if I never have intercourse again for the rest of my life. There are plenty of very satisfying sexual positions that remain. And anyway, watching her have an orgasm is more of a turn on for me than being in any particular position. So don't sweat it. Enjoy whatever works for you.

[AshB$]

That sounds really sweet of you.

Actually on Saturday, miraculously, both times we had sex I orgasmed. He was rubbing my clit too, but it was too sensitive, so I pressed his hand up against my clit and that really helped. I came before him both times. That was like amazing!
So the next day we were hoping for the same results. It didn't happen. My guess is that my Nuvaring must have been in the right position that day. lol