Sorry for the long post... if cannot be bothered to read all this, please scroll down to the cliff notes at the bottom...
One of the things I've recently come to realize, is that women - unfortunately, and unnecessarily in most instances - seem to worry about their vaginas just as much as men worry about the size of their penises.
The thing that surprises me the most is that some women, seem to be very concerned about the size of their vaginas.
The following are not assertions, just my understanding of vaginal 'size' based on my current experiences to date as a (32 year old) man, and on reading/research I have done.
I am happy to be corrected on anything I say/believe which is incorrect and to listen to peoples' experiences and opinions, and, as I said, I'm not trying to 'lay down the Law', I realize there is a lot to be learned here and hopefully this may be reassuring/informative to any of the ladies who are concerned about their 'size'.
It also appears that - in keeping with men who obsess to an unhealthy degree about their penis size - women who obsess about their vaginal size do so because of negative/thoughtless comments made by members of the opposite sex, which is obviously unfortunate.
Here goes, LOL...
Vaginal size and childbirth: Firstly, every healthy women, bar a few with physical/medical complications is physically capable of giving birth to a baby. (duh, such a boy thing to say, what else would it be? I decided not to delete the 'to a baby' comment out of humility.)
A new born baby typically weighs what, 5-10LB's? And it's a given that a typical, healthy woman can give birth to one.
During childbirth the vagina will dilate to make the birth less painful but my understanding is that it can stretch the muscles of the vagina, resulting in permanent stretching and consequently physical enlargement of the vagina. My understanding is this is the only way a vagina can be made bigger, through physically stretching the muscles.
This means that after childbirth a women's vagina may be noticeably larger to her partner (and maybe her?), with kegal exercises being the only way to try and reverse this, because they help to tighten the muscles. I don't have children so cannot make a comparison based on size 'before' and 'after' i.e, as a husband and father may be able to.
Vaginal size in general: Firstly, as open minded as I 'fancy' myself to be, there are two expressions in particular that makes me feel physically sick down to my very core, the first is when a women refers to her vagina as a 'growler', and the second is when men say they like a 'nice tight *****'.
To me this, 'nice tight *****' comment was always an oxymoron: when I first became intimate with a girl (my first GF) I always took it as a compliment and as a given that when she became very wet and loose (during foreplay) that it was because I was doing my job of arousing her properly; isn't every women 'tight' until she's relaxed and aroused? You can't have it both ways can you? Does that mean that what these men want is a women who's vagina gets wet when she's aroused but doesn't dilate? They sound like men with 'size issues' to me. I think the key thing with men who want 'tightness' is that it serves no other purpose than to make them 'feel' bigger. I think this is why many men like anal, I don't like anal sex and don't enjoy the feeling of anything too tight around my penis so maybe I'm the odd one out.
I can remember having sex once when I was very inexperienced and my GF became so wet I couldn't feel much resistance, so I started spooning her, which solved the problem, but even then I didn't think she was too big (or I was too small) I took this a compliment, that I had done my job properly of arousing her. She was capable of giving birth after all.
I've only had one experience with a virgin and we just fooled around together, but I can remember her being so tight I could only just get my finger into her, I believe this is called 'vaginismus' and is a common sexual problem for girls, comparable to PE and ED in inexperienced men, so I won't try and discuss it any further as that's all I know and it isn't really relevant.
I also chatted to a girl who worked as a prostitute, who told me her vagina would become looser and slightly bigger during the periods of time she 'worked'. (she said she did the job on and off.) She said the constant sex with penises of various sizes (without her being genuinely aroused) would just lead to relaxing and temporary stretching of the vagina, but it would return to normal a few weeks after she stopped working. I don't take this to mean that a girl who is 'bigger' or 'looser' has a lot of sex with many different men, my interpretation was that her vagina adapted to being penetrated regularly without the need for her to be legitimately aroused. I suppose this could be comparable to a man who's more relationship orientated and can only get an erection with a women who he's secure with and loves, to a man who is more casual sex orientated and can easily become aroused with a women he barely knows, if that makes sense? (there's no credit or shame in being either way IMO.)
Another girl I am good friends with and tell everything too, and she's 'been around' LOL told me she met a man with a penis so big it hung when it was erect. She said her last BF was 'average' so probably about 5-6 inches and it took her a week or so of having sex every night for her to get used to him and for it to not hurt. She also said her vagina went back to 'normal' soon after she stopped sleeping with him. I interpret this to mean the muscles of the vagina, like the rest of the muscles in the body have 'memory' and her body physically adapted to his size.
I interpret this to mean that just because a women is physically capable of accommodating something 'in' her like a baby or a large penis it doesn't mean it is pleasant and wont hurt. e.g childbirth is very painful and can potentially damage a vagina, and a huge penis/dildo can cause pain but is smaller than a baby and is something you can become used to and start to enjoy.
I'm not sure if a women's vagina would tighten if she abstained from sex for several months? I have heard girls say this but I think they were being flippant? Would this be more psychological where they just hadn't experienced having anything in them for so long?
Cliff notes: Am I correct or incorrect thinking the following?
1) Vaginal size varies from women to women, but all healthy women are capable of childbirth, which can permanently stretch the muscles of the vagina resulting in the vagina becoming larger.
2) All womens' vaginas are tight (or at least not self lubricated and dilated) when they are not aroused, arousing a women will result in her vagina dilating, self lubricating and becoming looser/bigger: men, don't expect it to stay 'tight' if you have aroused her! A woman's vagina is SUPPOSED to be looser/larger when she is aroused.
3) the size of a women's vagina when she is aroused can vary somewhat based on i) degree of arousal; ii) how relaxed and experienced the women is; iii) whether or not she's had children; iv) her individual body size
4) A women can, with some getting used to, adjust to accommodating a different sized penis from that which she is used to. Obviously the bigger the more adjustment time is required.
Personally I've never observed a 'noticeable' disparity in the size of womens' vaginas when they are aroused, and I've slept with women who span the entire gamut: from UK size 6 to size 16, a petite mother who's given birth to a 10LB baby, an 18 year old size 10 girl who'd sept with probably less than 10 men, a woman who'd slept with 'lots' of men etc...
One of the things I've recently come to realize, is that women - unfortunately, and unnecessarily in most instances - seem to worry about their vaginas just as much as men worry about the size of their penises.
The thing that surprises me the most is that some women, seem to be very concerned about the size of their vaginas.
The following are not assertions, just my understanding of vaginal 'size' based on my current experiences to date as a (32 year old) man, and on reading/research I have done.
I am happy to be corrected on anything I say/believe which is incorrect and to listen to peoples' experiences and opinions, and, as I said, I'm not trying to 'lay down the Law', I realize there is a lot to be learned here and hopefully this may be reassuring/informative to any of the ladies who are concerned about their 'size'.
It also appears that - in keeping with men who obsess to an unhealthy degree about their penis size - women who obsess about their vaginal size do so because of negative/thoughtless comments made by members of the opposite sex, which is obviously unfortunate.
Here goes, LOL...
Vaginal size and childbirth: Firstly, every healthy women, bar a few with physical/medical complications is physically capable of giving birth to a baby. (duh, such a boy thing to say, what else would it be? I decided not to delete the 'to a baby' comment out of humility.)
A new born baby typically weighs what, 5-10LB's? And it's a given that a typical, healthy woman can give birth to one.
During childbirth the vagina will dilate to make the birth less painful but my understanding is that it can stretch the muscles of the vagina, resulting in permanent stretching and consequently physical enlargement of the vagina. My understanding is this is the only way a vagina can be made bigger, through physically stretching the muscles.
This means that after childbirth a women's vagina may be noticeably larger to her partner (and maybe her?), with kegal exercises being the only way to try and reverse this, because they help to tighten the muscles. I don't have children so cannot make a comparison based on size 'before' and 'after' i.e, as a husband and father may be able to.
Vaginal size in general: Firstly, as open minded as I 'fancy' myself to be, there are two expressions in particular that makes me feel physically sick down to my very core, the first is when a women refers to her vagina as a 'growler', and the second is when men say they like a 'nice tight *****'.
To me this, 'nice tight *****' comment was always an oxymoron: when I first became intimate with a girl (my first GF) I always took it as a compliment and as a given that when she became very wet and loose (during foreplay) that it was because I was doing my job of arousing her properly; isn't every women 'tight' until she's relaxed and aroused? You can't have it both ways can you? Does that mean that what these men want is a women who's vagina gets wet when she's aroused but doesn't dilate? They sound like men with 'size issues' to me. I think the key thing with men who want 'tightness' is that it serves no other purpose than to make them 'feel' bigger. I think this is why many men like anal, I don't like anal sex and don't enjoy the feeling of anything too tight around my penis so maybe I'm the odd one out.
I can remember having sex once when I was very inexperienced and my GF became so wet I couldn't feel much resistance, so I started spooning her, which solved the problem, but even then I didn't think she was too big (or I was too small) I took this a compliment, that I had done my job properly of arousing her. She was capable of giving birth after all.
I've only had one experience with a virgin and we just fooled around together, but I can remember her being so tight I could only just get my finger into her, I believe this is called 'vaginismus' and is a common sexual problem for girls, comparable to PE and ED in inexperienced men, so I won't try and discuss it any further as that's all I know and it isn't really relevant.
I also chatted to a girl who worked as a prostitute, who told me her vagina would become looser and slightly bigger during the periods of time she 'worked'. (she said she did the job on and off.) She said the constant sex with penises of various sizes (without her being genuinely aroused) would just lead to relaxing and temporary stretching of the vagina, but it would return to normal a few weeks after she stopped working. I don't take this to mean that a girl who is 'bigger' or 'looser' has a lot of sex with many different men, my interpretation was that her vagina adapted to being penetrated regularly without the need for her to be legitimately aroused. I suppose this could be comparable to a man who's more relationship orientated and can only get an erection with a women who he's secure with and loves, to a man who is more casual sex orientated and can easily become aroused with a women he barely knows, if that makes sense? (there's no credit or shame in being either way IMO.)
Another girl I am good friends with and tell everything too, and she's 'been around' LOL told me she met a man with a penis so big it hung when it was erect. She said her last BF was 'average' so probably about 5-6 inches and it took her a week or so of having sex every night for her to get used to him and for it to not hurt. She also said her vagina went back to 'normal' soon after she stopped sleeping with him. I interpret this to mean the muscles of the vagina, like the rest of the muscles in the body have 'memory' and her body physically adapted to his size.
I interpret this to mean that just because a women is physically capable of accommodating something 'in' her like a baby or a large penis it doesn't mean it is pleasant and wont hurt. e.g childbirth is very painful and can potentially damage a vagina, and a huge penis/dildo can cause pain but is smaller than a baby and is something you can become used to and start to enjoy.
I'm not sure if a women's vagina would tighten if she abstained from sex for several months? I have heard girls say this but I think they were being flippant? Would this be more psychological where they just hadn't experienced having anything in them for so long?
Cliff notes: Am I correct or incorrect thinking the following?
1) Vaginal size varies from women to women, but all healthy women are capable of childbirth, which can permanently stretch the muscles of the vagina resulting in the vagina becoming larger.
2) All womens' vaginas are tight (or at least not self lubricated and dilated) when they are not aroused, arousing a women will result in her vagina dilating, self lubricating and becoming looser/bigger: men, don't expect it to stay 'tight' if you have aroused her! A woman's vagina is SUPPOSED to be looser/larger when she is aroused.
3) the size of a women's vagina when she is aroused can vary somewhat based on i) degree of arousal; ii) how relaxed and experienced the women is; iii) whether or not she's had children; iv) her individual body size
4) A women can, with some getting used to, adjust to accommodating a different sized penis from that which she is used to. Obviously the bigger the more adjustment time is required.
Personally I've never observed a 'noticeable' disparity in the size of womens' vaginas when they are aroused, and I've slept with women who span the entire gamut: from UK size 6 to size 16, a petite mother who's given birth to a 10LB baby, an 18 year old size 10 girl who'd sept with probably less than 10 men, a woman who'd slept with 'lots' of men etc...
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