[justlikeheaven]

Okay, I am looking for advice on how I can get my boyfriend to go down on me. Here's a little background info and if someone can tell me what the problem might be..

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We're very open sexually and he has given me oral a couple times before but I practically had to force him. I was the first person that he has done this with so he was a little nervous the first time but afterwards I assured him it was great and he did a good job.
Usually when I ask him to do it, he would say no and I would just brush it off because it's not too big a deal. But recently I have been wanting it more and he is set on not doing it. He swears it has nothing to do with my vagina and i'm pretty sure it's not why either. And when I say "well you have done it before, why not now" he kind of just doesn't answer me so I get frustrated and leave it alone. But now I'm wondering is he doing this because he's afraid or not confident with his performance? He simply says he doesn't like it. And I've tried the "well I do things for you that I don't like" argument. Doesn't work. What do I do?

Guy's advice will be more than appreciated

[jns]

As best I can tell, there are guys who like giving oral to a lady and there are those that don't. I am of the former type. Some things that inhibit guys are religion, socialization against it (it's not manly; jokes about those who do it), being taught that oral sex is unclean, being scared of catching a disease, etc. Arguing for it generally is not an argument that a lady can win, the guy usually has to be enthusiastic to do it from the start, even if he is a beginner. From reading these forums, there are some guys who talk the talk but don't walk the walk. There are others who start enthusiastically, but fade quickly during a relationship or even during an intimate encounter.

Is this a deal breaker in your relationship? Does it fit in with your ideal of him loving every inch of you or is that not your ideal? Will your disappointment damage your relationship down the road? You have to decide if he is the one for you.

[JonDoe]

I had the opposite problem with my wife. For many years she would not let me give her oral. Then one day, I said "Please try it, and if you honestly don't like it then I will never ask again." She agreed, and loved it so much that I still no longer have to ask, I just do it!

There are several reasons he might prefer not to give you oral. He might lose his erection, think it is unsanitary, believe it is sinful, think he is doing it wrong or not pleasing you, worried that this is a substitute for his penis, etc.

Does he also object to you giving him oral?

Perhaps you can try a brazillian wax, but leave a landing strip and surprise him. Also buy him a book titled "She Comes First" by Dr. Ian Kerner.

[AntLondon]

That's a little tricky - like all sexual activities, everyone has their favorites and their ones they don't really enjoy or like doing. If he really doesn't like doing it, you may have to find something else that give you the same sensation as a substitute. I would suggest, before giving up, to try a few fun ways to incorporate oral into your bedroom fun - perhaps a game with forfeits that you have to perform on each other for a set period of time (2 minutes for example). His motivation to play would be you'd have to do things he likes if he wins, and vice versa - this could be as simple as a game of snap, or rolling a dice and the person who guessing the number each time "wins" a favour etc.

Another method would be to try mutual oral (69) - if he enjoys you giving him oral, rather than just "go down on him" (and if on a bed etc) go top to tail, and leave yourself within easy reach. See if you can't get him to pick up on the hint.

Forcing him won't work though I'm afraid, it's more likely to make him less and less interested in doing other things to - so I wouldn't advice that.

[Nholland]

When i was younger n dating young guys they didnt really want to do it, however they were ok w licking all around it, my bikini line, around my butt etc not the same but still arousing and was a great tease to get me n the mood. Maybe this could be a compromise?

[Guest]

Everybody has a right to their preferences, it may just be something you have to accept if you want to be with him. As long as he's not asking you to go down on him. For me a women who didn't want to receive oral would be a deal breaker, I really can't enjoy a women unless I'm able to taste her.

[nic22]

honestly thats a tought one. Me for one LOVE doing it. Not sure on your age but I know when I was younger and the topic would come up allot of my guy friends thought it was gross....I never understood that. I have always loved doing it, provideing the girl was clean and didn't smell. Some guys like it and some don't I guess. You have to try to find out from him what his problem is. Does he like getting BJ's if so stop doing it until he starts.... *** for tat so to speak. Is it a deal breaker for you? I know for me I think it would be....I like the full package everything and if I was missing somthing I would feel id have to find it else where. good luck.

[nic22]

are you women giving your guys blow jobs? If so stop simple. Or maybe time to find a new man.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

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Does your boyfriend accept that you are an escort?

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CW