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  • Hugo-B
    Veteran Member
    • Jun 2012
    • 957

    Can a woman rape a man?

    Section 1 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003 defines rape in this way.
    (1) A person (A) commits an offence if –
    (a) he intentionally penetrates the vagina, anus or mouth of another person (B) with his penis,
    (b) B does not consent to the penetration, and
    (c) A does not reasonably believe that B consents.
    (2) Whether a belief is reasonable is to be determined having regard to all the circumstances, including any steps A has taken to ascertain whether B consents.

    Intention of perpetrator (the rapists 'state of mind' whilst carrying out the act): Intentional penetration; does not reasonably believe recipient consents; whether a belief is reasonable is to be determined having regards to all of the circumstances , including any steps man has taken to ascertain whether recipient consents.

    Outcome of offense (what has to of happened for a rape to have taken place): Penile penetration of anus, vagina, or mouth (or a combination) without consent.


    In a recent discussion on here re abortion Stillness raised the question of female-on-male rape. This was something I hadn't previously given any degree of serious thought to until now.

    The word 'rape' generally leads us to picture something terrible like a man dragging a distressed woman down an alley as she struggles piously before he forcefully violates her. As much as I hate to imagine it, this is probably a fairly accurate if somewhat vague description of 'stranger rape'. Stranger rape only represents a small percentage of rapes though, usually it never quite as 'cut and dry', since the issue of consent between people who know each other is much more difficult to prove/disprove in Court when a dispute regarding it arises.

    In 2003 the UK consolidated it's sexual offense Law into the 'Sexual Offenses Act 2003'. For the first time in the UK the Law defined consent and also confirmed that rape was a gender specific crime and could only be carried out by a man, although a woman could be an accomplice. It didn't become an offense to rape your wife until 1991, and the Law didn't recognize male-on-male rape until 1994. Child sexual abuse wasn't even recognized by the Law until 1945.

    Whilst a only a man can be found legally guilty of a rape the Law does recognizer that a man, who was previously a woman and has undergone gender reassignment surgery and has a surgically constructed penis can be guilty or rape. The Law holds that a boy over the age of 10 (previously 14) can be capable of rape since from the age of 10 boys can possess the capacity to have sex (although I didn't at that age).

    The Law also recognizes a distinction between 'submitting' to sex, and 'consenting'. For example if a man makes an indirect threat to a woman i.e., 'I'll kill your children if you don't have sex with me' she is obviously acquiescing and submitting to the threat in order to avoid the unpleasant consequences, not consenting by her own free will. This is obviously a good thing and women should be protected from this.

    It would be highly unusual, if not close to impossible for a woman to literally take a man by force and literally rape him in the 'dragging down an alley' scenario I mentioned above, so I don't think it's necessary to mention it again.

    Whilst Parliament may not feel the need to draft Legislation protecting men from being raped by women, I think there is a lacuna in the existing Law since a man can certainly coerced into 'submitting' to sex with a woman, or can have a woman have sex with him without consent, so isn't this rape according to the government's definition?

    I think the two most likely possible female-on-male rape examples would be as follows:

    1) A man is asleep, and either has an erection or the woman induces one and proceeds to have sexual intercourse with him, without consent. This would technically, according to the definition above, be rape since there is an absence of consent.
    HOWEVER, if a couple agree that they can have sex with each other whilst one is asleep this of course would not be rape, it would obviously be very difficult to prove or disprove in Court though. A woman could conceive doing this and the man would then be responsible for at least financially supporting the child if he wanted nothing else to do with it or the mother.

    2) A woman threatens a man with some kind of consequence if he doesn't have sex with her, this could even be her saying she'll tell the police he tried to rape her if he doesn't have sex with her. This would of course result in the man 'submitting' - again, there is an absence of consent without the direct use of physical force, or even the threat of violence.

    In light of examining these two hypothetical scenarios in accordance with the definition the Law outlines above, I now think that it is incontrovertible that a woman can rape a man, since for a rape to take place the victim doesn't need to be taken by force, I think this antiquated view of rape is one of the reasons that men cannot be seen to be raped by women. But if a man indirectly threatening a woman to have sex with him is rape, why can this not work both ways?
    However, as I maintain on here - women are MUCH more vulnerable than men - and I have also NEVER heard a man express any fear of being raped or sexually assaulted by a woman, perhaps this, and the lack, or near virtual absence of complaints to the police about female-on-male rape are why the Law opted to not acknowledge it as a crime?

    What do you guys think?
    Does anyone know a man who claims to have been raped by a woman?
    The 2003 Act claimed to be as gender neutral as possible here, yet it fails to acknowledge the possibility of the scenarios I mention above, do you think this is right/fair/reasonable?
    Do you agree that the lack of complaints from men are why the Law chose not to recognize this crime?
    I don't know anything of USA Law and would be interested if it is any different.
    "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" Julius Caesar
  • DSemcho
    Senior Member
    • Sep 2011
    • 177

    Didn't read this. It's WAY to long to read. So I'm just gonna go with my simple answer.



    Yes - a woman can rape a man. That's what roofies and alcohol are for. Why do you think the term Coyote Ugly came into being?

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    • Claret
      Assistant Admin
      • Jan 2011
      • 1823

      ummm, Coyote Ugly has nothing to do with a woman raping a man.

      A situation encountered after a night of consuming alcohol whereby a person, usually male, wakes the next morning in a strange bed with a sexual partner from the previous evening who is completely physically undesirable (see ugly, nasty, two bagger) and sleeping on the man's arm. The hapless male would rather gnaw off his own arm than wake the woman and have to face the ills of his intoxicated choices the previous evening. Originating from a phenomena whereby a coyote captured in a jaw trap will chew off its own leg to escape certain death.
      That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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      • Claret
        Assistant Admin
        • Jan 2011
        • 1823

        Buddahboy, I think also by that should the male be under the age of consent, it would be considered rape, even if he agreed to it.

        There can be emotional factors that would "blackmail" a male into performing which may constitute rape also.
        That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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        • Hugo-B
          Veteran Member
          • Jun 2012
          • 957

          Originally posted by Claret
          Buddahboy, I think also by that should the male be under the age of consent, it would be considered rape, even if he agreed to it.

          There can be emotional factors that would "blackmail" a male into performing which may constitute rape also.
          I agree that a boy under the age of consent can be capable of rape, though I'd hate to imagine a 10 year old boy raping anyone, I find that quite disturbing.
          "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" Julius Caesar

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          • Hugo-B
            Veteran Member
            • Jun 2012
            • 957

            Originally posted by CHANDLERS WISH
            Sweet to reply you must read the entire thread .. Then you may understand the entirety of the question...

            I can see an answer based on the "thread" question but that is not the question in its entirety .
            No bad, the question in the title of the thread isn't actually quite congruent with the thread. 'your opinion on women raping men' might have been more fitting.
            "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" Julius Caesar

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            • CHANDLERS WISH
              • Mar 2008
              • 22440

              Originally posted by DSemcho
              Didn't read this. It's WAY to long to read. So I'm just gonna go with my simple answer.



              Yes - a woman can rape a man. That's what roofies and alcohol are for. Why do you think the term Coyote Ugly came into being?

              Sweet to reply you must read the entire thread .. Then you may understand the entirety of the question...

              I can see an answer based on the "thread" question but that is not the question in its entirety .
              PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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              • Claret
                Assistant Admin
                • Jan 2011
                • 1823

                What I meant, was a woman could have sex with a male under the age of consent. She would be guilty of rape of the boy. And, yes also, some males as young as 10 can rape women as well.
                That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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                • Hugo-B
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jun 2012
                  • 957

                  Originally posted by DSemcho
                  Didn't read this. It's WAY to long to read. So I'm just gonna go with my simple answer.



                  Yes - a woman can rape a man. That's what roofies and alcohol are for. Why do you think the term Coyote Ugly came into being?
                  Your comment above is enough of a contribution. I'm interested to hear what the women think about this.

                  In short the question could have been 'whilst the Law doesn't recognize female-on-male rape a woman can fulfill the criteria of what would constitute rape, what do you think?'
                  "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" Julius Caesar

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                  • Hugo-B
                    Veteran Member
                    • Jun 2012
                    • 957

                    Originally posted by Claret
                    What I meant, was a woman could have sex with a male under the age of consent. She would be guilty of rape of the boy. And, yes also, some males as young as 10 can rape women as well.
                    Oh sorry, I misinterpreted you. I agree, I think the Law recognizes this as child abuse as opposed to rape in the legal sense. I'm not sure what the ages are though, especially if a boy aged 10 is considered capable of rape, If he is capable of rape at the age of 10 surely he is capable of consensual sex too? I'm not sure exactly where the Law stands on this though.
                    "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" Julius Caesar

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