[fas1226]

I was wondering what you guys think is a good amount of sex in like a week. For myself, I've been fairly active with my fiance to the point where we're doing it at least once a day and maybe missing one day in a week. But then we'll make up for that and have a quickie while showering and then later at night have some full blown loving. Does this sound like we do it too much? We both agree it's not about the sex, but we do enjoy each other. So, what's you guy's opinion on this?

[Lady Syrinx]

I was wondering what you guys think is a good amount of sex in like a week. For myself, I've been fairly active with my fiance to the point where we're doing it at least once a day and maybe missing one day in a week. But then we'll make up for that and have a quickie while showering and then later at night have some full blown loving. Does this sound like we do it too much? We both agree it's not about the sex, but we do enjoy each other. So, what's you guy's opinion on this?

I wish my husband and I could be that active. We have sex 2-3 times a week.We both work and have an almost-five year old daughter. Generally, we get one late night during the week, Saturday AM while little one watches cartoons and sometimes a quickie during the week or on Sunday after church. We try to have one "day off" per month when our daughter spends the night grandma and grandpa a substantial part of which is spent having sex.

[jns]

fas, your both having fun and that is good.

LS, when your life gets busy, compromises have to be made.

[Nholland]

There is no wrong or too much or too little as lomg as ur on the same page. What r u wprried about if ur both happy?

[Hugo-B]

I agree with JNS, there are no set rules or parameters which - if deviated from - mean you are having too much or too little.

However, for adults with commitments I would say that this is amount of sex is around the high end of a healthy amount of sex. I'm nearly 33, and I don't think I could manage more than once a day, everyday on an indefinite basis, apart from on holiday or something when the sea and sun seems to send the libido soaring through the roof.

[sexnlove]

Very sad about lack of se x!

My man is not active enough! I wish he was an everyday guy. Seriously i aqm considering leaving this relationship because he wants sex like every four days, and then when he does he refuses foreplay, wont do oral. Giving or recieving, and i love giving oral so i am really hurt by this. He will ignore me when i ask him if we can have crazy sex or sex on a chair, or whatever. Sometimes he will not even kiss me before sex, he will just stick it in. He wont even do doggy style, he just wants missionary and thats it. H wont even let me touch his freaking package!! Says im too rough, and i dont know what the problem is. It is absolutely killing me and im about to leave europe and move back to the states. He wont work on it, and wont even agree in every other day! He never says what feels good, and a few weeks ago i asked him if he would talk dirty to me and he said no, im not 25! Since when did age matter when it comes to talking dirty, he also wont ask me what feels good, and then gets there and thinks even if i didnt i should be satisfied! Hes like, you got laid...are you happy now? He makes me cry all the time, im a beautiful girl, and am only 25 and am also nurse so i dont know why he rejects me like this. Also, when we have intercourse he goes lim sometimes during it. It makes me feel aweful. My husband is a doctor and he loves our son. He is a good dsd but he isnot affectionate, and doesnt do things for me like i wish he did like buy me flowers randomly or be crazy sexual...its like 5 minutes and over. Thn he rolls over, usually to his side of the bed and then hes gone. He doesnt seem to care about my pleasure. What do i do! Ive tried several times, talking bout it. He always has an excuse why we cant do orl or chair...last night i said this is boring! When we were doing it, and hes like ok...lets do this another time. Jumped off me and went to bed, i had asked him if we could have sex in a chair cowgirl style and he ignored me twice and then when i said its boring he jumped off me and went to bed. We have issues like this and when i tell him he suggests i need a break and should go back to th U.S. for some time. Awesome. I feel like ****.

[Lady Syrinx]

fas, your both having fun and that is good.

LS, when your life gets busy, compromises have to be made.

JNS,

I think I just regret the fact that due tdepression (related to untreated AD/HD, I believe) and anti-depressants we effectively lost the commitmentless portion of our marriage. Now that our sex life has returned to normal and the quality is through the roof I wish we could go back to being newlyweds. I just need to get over the regret. We'll be going to Ireland next for our 10th wedding anniversary (20 years together) we're looking forward to 7-10 alone. We've already agreed to stock-up on condoms for the trip.

[jns]

JNS,

I think I just regret the fact that due tdepression (related to untreated AD/HD, I believe) and anti-depressants we effectively lost the commitmentless portion of our marriage. Now that our sex life has returned to normal and the quality is through the roof I wish we could go back to being newlyweds. I just need to get over the regret. We'll be going to Ireland next for our 10th wedding anniversary (20 years together) we're looking forward to 7-10 alone. We've already agreed to stock-up on condoms for the trip.

Best wishes on your new life and your trip.