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  • imaymi92
    Junior Member
    • Sep 2012
    • 2

    don't enjoy sex any more

    For the past few months whenever I have sex I never seem to get wet enough which makes penetration hurt and sometimes cause bleeding. Its really embarrasing and it stops me enjoying sex any more. I'm only 20 so I'm worried there's something wrong?!
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    There is nothing wrong with you. What you need to do is to go to the store, buy sex lubricant and use it. Then you won't have pain and bleeding so you should be able to enjoy sex more. Does he do any foreplay on you to get you excited and possibly have orgasms before intercourse?
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    • imaymi92
      Junior Member
      • Sep 2012
      • 2

      Originally posted by jns
      There is nothing wrong with you. What you need to do is to go to the store, buy sex lubricant and use it. Then you won't have pain and bleeding so you should be able to enjoy sex more. Does he do any foreplay on you to get you excited and possibly have orgasms before intercourse?
      I have used it but I feel like I shouldn't have to. He does and I get exited but nothing ever makes me wet any more and he never makes an effort to get me to orgasm

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      • DreamP346
        • Oct 2011
        • 2053

        Use lubricant. There is nothing wrong with that. Its even more important if you are using condoms because that will really dry you out. How can you enjoy sex if its painful!

        Also, you need to talk to your partner. If he isn't concerned about your sexual needs, that is a major issue. Why has he changed? Are there any other issues going on in your relationship? Have you told him about the pain? Have you asked him to do stuff that will make you get off or are you just expecting him to know what you want/need?
        Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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