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  • sexnlove
    Member
    • Aug 2012
    • 29

    Men faking orgasms, choosing porn over me

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    My husband admitted this morning he fakes his orgasm cause he is too busy watching porn over having sex with me. Hes getting off to these other women and goes limp when were having sex and wont even cum. He prefers porn over me, and lied about it for a while. He wont do oral with me, he wont even let me blow him. I feel so depressed, i may take my things and move back to the usa. I feel so rejected as i beg him for sex all the time, then when he doesnt finish he says i should be happy cause i had sex when i didnt even cum. He wont talk in sex, wont communicate with me, wont make sure im satisfied and if he cums he finishes rolls over and barely touches me. Its hurts so bad, and sometimes we go to bed when we havent seen eachtoehr all day and he just rolls over and goes to sleep. I feel so sad and broken that i dont feel like waking up every day to know im gonna keep being sad. He tells me to go to the bathroom and get myself off with my toy when he doesnt finish to pretends to cum and then stops. I asked him once if he wanted to watch and he said no. This is my second marriage, my first cheated on me, i feel so cheated again. I have two beautiful boys. I have to beg him for sex, and he tells me im a sex addict. Whatever, i have a great sex drive and when we have sex i tune my body in to cum at the same time as he does and he just cant keep it hard for me. I may have gained some weight but im beautiful. And always wear makeup try and look nice for him ,smell good. And am a good mom to his baby! What more could a man want! I even cook for him alot but he eats before the food is done his stupid rice and meat that he could eat all the time. I am breastfeeding yay! And even if i want a small glass of wine every once in a while he wont do it with me. He said im an alcoholic?.? Really...wtf us wrong! I have tried to hard to make him happy and he doesnt appreciate my sex drive or me. Im so so sad. What should i do? I want sex all the time, never once turned him down and he constantly denies me. Once i was having depression post partum badly and he says to me everytime i wanna talk about out our issues...you should go back and visit the states. Usually because of my frustration with sex. Porn over me, faking orgasms, im not happy. All i want is sime wild and crazy sex and he just wants to stick it in without kissing me. I feel betrayed and hopeless. Second marrriage, do i quit
  • SUZE
    Member
    • Sep 2012
    • 24

    Have you asked if there is a different position he wants to try or if there is something in the porn he specifically likes?
    If he offers you no answer other then he's tired and then goes and does his deed.. you may want to consider whether this is the right relationship for you.
    But tell him how much it hurts you and let him know

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    • sexnlove
      Member
      • Aug 2012
      • 29

      I beg him to try other positions, even to give HIM oral! I tried doggy style, etc...and nope not interested. I am blown away. Maybe i should just find some hot hunks in the cyber sex world lol. Im so depressed, gonna have some drinks cause i cant handle this

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      • Dills143
        Junior Member
        • Sep 2012
        • 2

        My husband would watch porn when i went to bed and i would wake up 10mins later and he is there jerking off to some hooker on the computer... it would make me so mad! i mean "Really am i just a doormat to you?" that's what i would say i would cuss and yell at him. He kept doing it till i threatened to leave him. Because it is just not fair! here i am waiting for him to want to touch me and he prefers some bimbo. I still think sometimes that he does it while he is in the bath but until i catch him i don't care. I think you should comfront your man about his "online cheating" and talk about it force him to talk. Hope it helps.

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        • sexnlove
          Member
          • Aug 2012
          • 29

          I did...and this morning he admitted it now he is saying he just was agreeing with me, he is trying to mess with my head until to thinking he actually wasn't confessing it but instead agreeing with my craziness,l,,does that make any sense? Also, he has made it clear he wont change, I asked him if he did oral etc with his ex and he won't answer! Why??? I feel like he is only depriving me. Not his ex's...and now he said cause I'm crying go to the batthroom and then he went to the couch. He said if I follow him he will go outside. I wish he would hold me instead but he won't. I want him to touch me, kiss me but I'm so mad about how he's like yeah it's cause of porn this morning and now it's he was just agreeing with my insanity.does anyone understand me? I feel like inflicting pain to myself...to numb this in some way. Like drink or something. I can't handle this...he says I'm too much for him, and I, too much for me honestly I think I'm emotionally a mess. Always have been

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