[coldheartsxo]

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He's ridiculously attractive (and I'm not just saying that because I'm his girlfriend), everyone thinks so. He knows what he's doing in bed, and he's never had any trouble with it. When we first started going out, we couldn't stop. I've always had a high sex drive and he was relishing in this; because two of his ex girlfriends just refused to have sex with him after a certain amount of time.
Now that I've started working two jobs and going to University, I'm just so lethargic and the thought of sex seems like a chore. I've had days off where I do feel like I want to, and then when we get down to it I'm just repulsed by it. When I do orgasm, it's nowhere near as intense as it used to be and sometimes I think I just haven't orgasmed at all. We go weeks without having sex now, because I just can't seem to get in the mood anymore.
Worst thing is, I've fantasised about it with other guys and girls, but the thought of having sex with my own boyfriend whom I love so, so much just seems sickening.
Awful isn't it? I'd appreciate any help what so ever on this, as I'd LOVE to be able to make him (sexually) happy again. He's too nice to say anything about it and understands I'm working a lot, but I can't help feeling like I'm turning into his ex girlfriends xo

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I know you are having problems replying to posts for some reason but when we sort that out, ...

Do you feel like it is "just sex".. Does your boyfriend hug you for no reason, talk about your day with you.

Sometimes when work over-loads us, we need a hug, a kiss for no reason and we need passion a connection, not just sex.

[coldheartsxo]

He's the most caring guy, ever. He's affectionate all the time and he's always been there for me when I'm upset and he listens to my whinging and moaning. I just feel like such a monster for not feeling attracted to him in bed anymore. I can tell he still wants to, because he'll say cheeky things or compliment me or start touching me, but I find myself 'going to sleep' more often than jumping on top of him! xo

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Here's another thing. With holding sex, makes you not want it, nothing can jump out at you and you feel mmm. Yet, doing it, even if you don't want to a couple of times may make you re-connect, bond, because you will feel like it, our bodies are like that.

[coldheartsxo]

I suppose we've not been 'doing it' regularly enough for me to feel that connection again. I have a few days off next week so that might give us time to 'reconnect' haha! I just hate how I can let my mind wander with the thoughts of anyone else but my own boyfriend. I'm scared we've gotten too comfortable? Is that even a thing? Where I just 'forget' to make the effort.