[topaz]

I am a larger woman, and my husband is a little chunky. He also has a small penis...and I need help. I'm not satisfied with the sex and I don't want to hurt his feelings, we have been married for 1 1/2 years. I am having great difficulties finding pleasure in our sex. Help me please!

[DreamP346]

Does he do other things to please you like oral, manual stimulation, toys? His penis size should be a very small aspect of sexual satisfaction if he is trying to do lots of foreplay and other things.

[kymmylou]

What about other positions? Sometimes certain positions make it easier to feel, where others make it harder to feel anything. May wanna find a book of positions and experiment. May spice things up too. Good luck.

[Nholland]

Is he "chunky" or obese? I read that when obese men lose x amount of lbs (i dont remember the amount) they gain an inch in size. If this is the case u guys could start working out togeher. Also i recently started doing kegels like crazy and have noticed improvement rather quickly. My bf is a good size but after an orgasm im relaxed and very wet and couldnt really feel him but after my kegels i can feel him much better. So try those. Also while being wet is a good thing it can cause a loss of friction, maybe towel off a little if ur too wet or even use a tightening lube as they kinda dry u out a little if thays the problem. U cant control his penis size but can maybe control ur vagina tightness and this wont offend him. Other then that, its what the other poster said, try to get pleasure fr foreplay or clitoral stimulation.

[SUZE]

clitoral stimulation is necessary to reach orgasm. To help, have your husband stimulate you with his fingers or tongue before or after intercourse. Or perhaps you can also stimulate your clitoris while he performs oral sex on you sex positions can also increase penetration and make you feel "more Sex toys can also help. Try inserting a small vibrator into your vagina at the same time as your husband is entering you. The vibrations of the toy will also provide delicious erotic sensations for him

[sexyguy]

Having a small penis is not really a problem but being a little chunky on top of that can add to the problem because it could be that other body parts are coming in contact and not allowing deep enough penetration. I think you should talk to him. Try not to say there's a problem with his size etc Just be honest with him that your not enjoying sex as much and you want to try new things. It might get him to try some new things. Maybe you should try some different positions. If that doesn't work you should try stimulate your clitoris while having sex. Ask him to give you oral sex. If that doesnt work you should maybe try including toys in the mix. Try including clitoral vibrators in the mix. If he doesnt like the idea of vibrators maybe try something like vibrating rings he will just wear it and it will stimulate both of you. Theres even condoms with anesthetic that would make him last a lot longer. I hope it helped. I hope you enjoy it and find what works for you.

[jb62]

Medical fact the vagina is three inches deep before being turned on.. if he lays on his side with your right leg over him and your left leg between his legs he can enter you and play with your clit at the same time.

[poeticinjustices]

Medical fact the vagina is three inches deep before being turned on.. if he lays on his side with your right leg over him and your left leg between his legs he can enter you and play with your clit at the same time.

This is a highly recommended solution to most unsatisfying sex problems. If you are too shy to talk about toys yet or other options, this keeps you in the realm of traditional-ish positions but it allows more variety. My boyfriend is not small, quite the opposite, but he is a little chubby. However I'm small and can't really get off with just penetration most times and sometimes being with a big guy is painful (which sometimes is a "hurts so good" thing if we're going for deep penetration and others is a "get off me before I kill you this hurts so much" thing) ...this position is the solution. For my problem, your problem, anyone's problem. Try this position. You can also bring in toys while in this position if he's open to you. I was thrilled when I found out my boy was. Just try it. Guaranteed to make you happy.

Needless to say...me? Fan and advocate.

[Truckstar]

This may sound rude, but both of you being large could be the problem not his penis size, you try to lose weight together, your energy and sex life will improve.

[ReneeDay]

I'm going to disagree with the size don't matter statement that's totally not true! It going to matter both ways for different people or this topic would never occurred. I could see how being over weight would put a barrier in the way of pleasure or penetration. I never had that issue I'm very petite and have always dated slender or athletic guys. I don't know if you could tell a guy he needs to loose some weight I think it would be received wrong just like it would to a women. Maybe both getting involved with an activity that could improve both of your level of fitness and health might be a way to eventually loose the extra pounds. But I think its more about the natural need for satisfaction I can understand that. My high school sweetie and now husband who is very well endowed 8 1/2" long and 6 3/4" around is amazing. We had broke up after we graduated and went our own ways. I would find sex un satisfying with other guys then over look it and it would work out for awhile. Then that need to be stretched out and filled up became over whelming. That was part of what brought us back together and that we are in love totally. I read other it doesn't matter so much but I think some of us who have high sex drives and experience know what we like and need. My only answer is sex toys for a quick fix, but getting fit and healthy is very important as well. Good luck