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As for the goal comment, I didn't mean to go too deep on this one, just that sometimes when you set out with the goal of orgasm or the orgasm becomes the ultimate quest, it puts pressure on both partners and something can be lost, intimacy can be lost as it isn't the primary focus. When you just focus on the journey, which is the love making itself, then it's so much better. The kissing, the foreplay, the laughing etc. The benefit of this approach is of course, knowing your partner more intimately, enjoying all aspects of sex and it does usually lead to orgasm anyway

I definately agree with that....Kind of the same actually when a woman wants to get pregnant, she focuses on that and well the male misses out on added stuff You know what I mean.

In all, good in-sight and good to know you pay attention alot of men really don't care at all...Thanks for sharing...

CW