Hi everyone, I'm in need of some advice. I've been married for seven years and in the beginning our sex life was great, we would have sex 3-4 times a day for hrs, but everything changed after our kids. They were taking up more time, I would be tired and our sex life declined. I didnt think it was terrible, but it wasnt as often maybe 3 days a week, one time. Anyways, over the years we've had discussions and arguments about sex and i've tried to make things better. In the past couple months we were having sex daily or every other day, but recently I got a job working 10hr days 6 days a week. My husband doesnt work, he takes care of the house and kids. Lately ive been really tired so we might have sex 3-4 days a week, but that is not enough for my husband. I'm afraid that he will cheat, but at the same time I feel like why can't he understand I'm tired from work. I even told him that if he woke me in the middle of the night we could have sex, but it seems like that's not good enough.It's not that im not attracted to him, its just that I be tired.Does 3-4 days a week seem resonable or would you say he's sex deprived? All advice welcome from men and women.
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I would say he is lucky to get sex 3-4 days a week. How full are his days? What ages are the kids and are any in school away from home? Your days are not just 10 hour workdays, but there are lunch periods and commute times plus getting ready time before work. How much free time do you have to relax and enjoy yourself during the workweek?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
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3-4 days a week? Thats a lot for a woman which is so busy, your husband should be very happy about it. My girlfriend is no where near your busy calendar and I was mostly lucky to have sex once in a week. There were even times there was nothing in 3 weeks.
I think you are doing fine and nothing to blame. And if you are the only breadwinner, your husband should have more understanding for you.Comment
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He's definitely lucky to get what he gets considering he's expecting you to just 'put out'! Read the new facts of life - it will make you realise it's not women's fault if they don't crave sex.Comment
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