[pmm600]

recently my wife started to excessivly masturbating at night in bed and after sex any thoughts

[jns]

recently my wife started to excessivly masturbating at night in bed and after sex any thoughts

Define excessive. Have you asked her if she is being satisfied by the sex? Have you asked if you can help out to make it a team effort?

[pmm600]

After sex after going to sleep she would mastubate most of the night and sometimes quite frantic

[pmm600]

Even on nights of no sex she would masturbate most of the before we would fall asleep i wuold join in and we would masturbate for hours

[jns]

What has she said about her urge to masturbate that much?

[pmm600]

It just went on but not discussed

[Baloonce]

Is she having orgasms with you? It sounds like you consider sex is done once you've had an orgasm so she's extremely aroused and also ready to orgasm but doesn't get to!

[Element]

Obviously her sex drive is high. I suggest finding out as to of why she's preferring to finish herself off alone.

[Euphoric]

Sometimes we just need the physical release that comes with orgasm. You don't say in your post if she reaches that point when you two are having sex, so yeah, maybe she is aroused and needs to finish.

Do you put emphasis on her to orgasm during sex? Sometimes that can add pressure and stress, which is an O killer, yet she needs to release the pent-up sexual desire. Little made a comment in a post on back concerning this issue and she was right on the money. Pressuring your wife to O may be throwing a wrench in her works and it's so true.

It doesn't sound like there is any major hang ups with you two pleasuring yourselves in the company of one another, which to me is a good thing. I would be more curious if I were in your shoes if she constantly masterbated in private, as though she were ashamed or embarassed by doing so. With that said, talk to her. Communication is essential to a healthy relationship. Best wishes.