[chaya]

I'm just curious if my situation is typical or different from others.

My husband never asks for sex verbally. He might ask me if I am coming up soon when he is going to bed early because he has to work in the morning. I take this to mean that he wants me to join him in bed for sex. There are times when he takes a more direct approach, like when we are sitting on the couch together he might touch me on the breast or lower, I take this to mean he wants to do it. Or when we are in bed and I am about to go to sleep, he will keep tossing and turning sometimes bumping me. Sometimes I let this go on for a while but it is usually a sign he wants sex.

When I had a higher libido, I frequently told him I was ready for some sex. This usually embarrassed him but he almost always complied. He don't seem to be able to "ask for sex", even he hasn't had it for a while.

[DreamP346]

He usually just starts touching me below. Sometimes when he is feeling fairly aggressive, he'll just start pulling off my panties or climb on top of me and just go at it. Because I am the one with the higher libido, he doesn't have to ask. Its pretty much a given I will be receptive to his advances. He has never really verbally asked, but do we tease each other about having sex saying things like "can we do xyz tonight?"

[welsh-girl]

Its never usually verbal for me either. He normally kisses me first before letting his hands wander

[alive_but_not_living]

my other half never asks for it if he goes to bed naked i know he wants it if the keeps his shorts on he dont! and I always have to start it..so romantic lol

[rcoreyus]

We send each other emails during the day, usually signed with the usual X's and O's . Only we also have other letters we use as well - ranging from harmless (running fingers through the other's hair "H") to really naughty. A particularly naughty sign-off is a good hint. (anyone else do this???)

We are also just more affectionate - more intimate kisses, kisses on the neck or ears, etc. Sometimes one of us will specifically suggest getting to bed early, but mostly its just increasing levels of affection when we are together.

[shoshannah]

It depends. If we're already in bed and getting ready to go to sleep, he usually lets me know by holding me close and letting his hands wander and/or nuzzling my neck. If we're not in bed yet I can usually tell by how much physical contact he is seeking--handholding, hugs, kisses and such. When I want to initiate, I almost always start by holding him close and pressing/rubbing against him and kissing him, which always works. :-) If I know well in advance that I will want us to make love, like on date nights and such, I'll also make sure to dress the way I know he likes me to.

[Element]

My guy gets this 'look' in his eye;, his eyes don't tear from me, he has an adorable smile on his face that says "I'm going to ravage you" and he keeps kissing me and holding me to him. But he has never ever verbally asked for it. But I am also six years younger than him and have a much, much higher libido than his. So he knows there is no point in him asking; he can always have it.

[cathy23]

same with us., He gets the "look" and starts touching and fondling

[ItsASecret]

Most of the time my bf will just start touching me down below and I know that means he wants sex, other times he may say he is going to have a shower and I should go meet him upstairs after.

Me on the other hand I am almost strictly a "hey want to go upstairs and do stuff?" type person. Sometimes I will start rubbing between his legs and his body until I know he is ready to go then ask to go upstairs lol. Other than that I am not the type of person that sends raunchy texts or pushes him against walls and things like that so we stick to the more affection based initiating or just flat out asking.

[a_dub]

Most of the time my bf will just start touching me down below and I know that means he wants sex, other times he may say he is going to have a shower and I should go meet him upstairs after.

Me on the other hand I am almost strictly a "hey want to go upstairs and do stuff?" type person. Sometimes I will start rubbing between his legs and his body until I know he is ready to go then ask to go upstairs lol. Other than that I am not the type of person that sends raunchy texts or pushes him against walls and things like that so we stick to the more affection based initiating or just flat out asking.

When I was a kid, I always thought people never made explicit statements of intent. Maybe flirtation, the art of suggestion...but I pretty much figured that two people just fell into each other's arms and thats how sex was done. LOL.