I never had sex though i have a very loving bf ( of course we were in a long distance relation for more than 2 years, we are together from the last two months ). He could never put in his finger more than an inch inside me. I love the idea of cuddling, kissing, oral sex but penetration just scares me a lot. We have tried a few times and every time i kept moving back, shivering, crying and it turns him off and he loses his erection. We were so happy the last 2 years when we used to wait for each other's phone calls, messages and the next video session on skype but now being together its absolutely spoiling the relation because i'm unable to do anything to satisfy him, its irritating him...and i know i've crossed the limit of making him wait...we have tried 6 times unsuccessfully...what do i do to overcome my fears...now i'm actually realizing that i never liked the idea of having penetration though i like oral sex, french kissing just staying nude all the time sleeping beside him, talking....but i never really longed for sex..you know what i mean..i don't have that DESIRE :| :/...is something wrong with me??
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Different strokes for different folks. If you two love each other, and are willing to be patient with one another, try something very very small and slowly work up.
Why do you fear penetration? The fear of pain or something else entirely?
If you want to please him, be very relaxed, have an orgasm or two or three (
) then slowly work in some penetration play.
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Please honey, nothing is wrong with you! My first boyfriend was so anxious and nervous he would get soft whenever we tried to have sex. Sometimes it's just our brain messing with us. I've learned that a lot of foreplay helps. Maybe your just not ready, there is no need to rush, if he really loves you he will respect that you need to take things slow. I've had a couple different sex partners before my current boyfriend and our first time i was nervous, i was shaking. Just take things slow thats all, just hope for the best
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