Can't seem to masturbate properly
I am a virgin and I have masturbated before (using a pillow) but never the real thing. When I try to do it I always end up making the area feel raw without any feeling of pleasure. I can't seem to do it right no matter how many ways/times I try it. Please help?
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You will first need to be aroused to properly masturbate, try reading a steamy romance novel or your favorite sex scene from a movie. You should feel sensation down there, for me it's "tingly". If you try to stimulate before that, it will just be rubbing and that's it. Also, make use of your erogenous zones, nipples, navel, and even earlobes. Another tip is to definitely use lubrication, just a little bit, and then find what works for you. You may want to just start slow at first and just see what makes you feel good, because every woman is different. There's a statistic that about 70 percent of women can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, that's the little button up top. It needs gentle touches or it will get raw, and definitely needs lube of some kind. Hope that helps -
thank you! I haven't thought about arousing myself. Will definitely try.Comment
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you should also try to consider to maybe go softer in your approach and build yourself up. even then keep going soft.
just an idea hope it helps !Comment
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One thing to do is to let yourself go when you are near the peak. This will allow you to go over the peak. Another thing is to slow things down every once in a while, then rebuild towards a peak. This will keep you from not being able to go over the peak due to fatigue.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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All great advice..... Try laying down relaxing, close your eyes, and just start touching. You will know when you hit the spots that are going to work for you. No need to feel silly almost all have done it and continue to do so. Enjoy, learn, it's one of the best things women can do. To know is to please and be pleased.Comment
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