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  • margie123
    Member
    • Sep 2012
    • 25

    Will watch, but does not me to do.

    My husband likes to watch the dirty movie channels, so I thought I would get something sexy, tight & short outfit. Well I came into the bedroom, went to his side of the bed & danced a little, tried to be sexy, not trashy. He said he did not want me to do that, I'm not that kind of girl. But why watch others & not want me to spice it up a little?
  • rcoreyus
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2007
    • 4369

    No idea. I'd much rather watch my wife than some video.

    "boot to the head" to every man who doesn't appreciate it when their partner goes out of their way to do something for them. There are a lot of men who are not lucky enough to have someone like that .

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      Perhaps that's why he watches the 'dirty channels' as he likes to keep it at a distance or as a fantasy but not part of his/your reality.

      A lot of people fantasize about many things that they'd never really want to come true or have happen to them. Some women get excited about a "rape scene" as an example.

      Perhaps your husband likes to fantasize about what he's watching but loves you just the way you are.

      Me personally, I don't get it.

      I agree with rcoreyus above..."boot to the head" to every man...I for one appreciate my SO's efforts when she does something similar.

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      • MysteriousAtNight
        Junior Member
        • Dec 2012
        • 5

        Thats insane. How did you take that reaction? id tell him to sleep on the couch. Women need to stand tall for how they feel. Sound like i need to take my own advice also. ughh

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        • DreamP346
          • Oct 2011
          • 2053

          Because he likes looking at other women but doesn't respect what they are doing. When you did the little dance/outfit, to him, you were doing something disrespectful. Its this whole idea that people enjoy the ***** but want to marry the Madonna.

          It is your husband's problem. He needs to respect women and stop thinking that doing sexy stuff is degrading, especially when somebody does it out of love.
          Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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          • BabyGirl
            Banned
            • May 2010
            • 1665


            What SP said
            It is your husband's problem. He needs to respect women and stop thinking that doing sexy stuff is degrading, especially when somebody does it out of love.
            Only I'd add that he needs to stop looking at Other Women on TV. Start looking at you .


            And I'd put a Porn Block on the Comp..






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            • margie123
              Member
              • Sep 2012
              • 25

              I have never caught him watching movies without me, & he could not find he way around the internet lo to look on there. He has always asked me, Want to get a movie? I can say yes or no, but if I say yes it does seem to be a little more exciting & more active on both our parts. He did come from a family were his dad was the head of the house, don't question him & the kids worked at home/farm growing up. He never got to go out much. Work came first. The men worked outside & the wife & sisters made meals & kept the house clean. When he came in the house get his coffee, slippers ect.. My husband is not that bad but I do feel that have something to do with it. He did ask last night if we could watch a movie & I said ok. It was great, all is going ok. He has other reasons for treating me like he does. See my post "ready to blow" and that may have something to do with how he treats me. I do love him, and I do think it would need to get real bad before I would ask for a divorce, but if that's what has to be done, I would do it.

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              • NubbinsUp
                Member
                • Dec 2012
                • 43

                Using porn as part of foreplay makes sense to me, especially if both of our preferences are considered in selecting the video. Using it instead of sex, when a man's wife is enticing him away from the screen with her own charms and promises of real contact, I don't get. He wouldn't be able to find porn on the internet? Now, that's a surprise. Don't tell him it's there.

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                • monika_30
                  Member
                  • Dec 2012
                  • 11

                  Watching porn is a good sign, in my opinion you should also watch along with him it will make you both horny and there is no need of foreplay, you will have good pleasure in sex after this. Lol

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