[elusivemind]

Ladies...

I want to say up front I am a man. And I need help.

The woman in my life is wonderful. Loving... giving.... caring and passionate. We have a great love life. Our physical chemistry is off the chart and we deeply love each other.

The only "issue" is oral sex. We both love giving and receiving, but I've had trouble cumming when she gives me oral. It isn't that she's doing it wrong or that it doesn't feel good because it feels amazing. It's just that for whatever reason it hasn't happened with the regularity she was hoping for. I do my best to re-assure her that I love what she does and it's very pleasing to me and I love how she touches me and treats me, but it doesn't seem to help.

I want to be able to. I want to give her that, but I'm not the kind of guy who can just do that on command as much as I would like. I understand how she feels though... when I make her cum via oral sex it makes me feel like such a man in that I can please her and give her what she wants. She tells me she just wants the same for me and she feels inferior.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can handle this? I want to work through it and just keep trying until we find something that works. It took a while for me to find the right "mix" of stimulation that I know takes her over the moon. I just love her with all my heart and do not want her to feel inferior. What can I say or do to help. Everything I am saying right now seems to be backfiring and I don't want to hurt her. She means the world to me.

Most recently she tried something new which was SO good... the only issue was I had already cum earlier and had not yet "reloaded". I just want to be encouraging... She's very frustrated right now and I don't know what to do.

Thanks.

E

[Going upward]

At this point words won't help you just have to respond physically next time

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Ladies...

I want to say up front I am a man. And I need help.

The woman in my life is wonderful. Loving... giving.... caring and passionate. We have a great love life. Our physical chemistry is off the chart and we deeply love each other.

The only "issue" is oral sex. We both love giving and receiving, but I've had trouble cumming when she gives me oral. It isn't that she's doing it wrong or that it doesn't feel good because it feels amazing. It's just that for whatever reason it hasn't happened with the regularity she was hoping for. I do my best to re-assure her that I love what she does and it's very pleasing to me and I love how she touches me and treats me, but it doesn't seem to help.

I want to be able to. I want to give her that, but I'm not the kind of guy who can just do that on command as much as I would like. I understand how she feels though... when I make her cum via oral sex it makes me feel like such a man in that I can please her and give her what she wants. She tells me she just wants the same for me and she feels inferior.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can handle this? I want to work through it and just keep trying until we find something that works. It took a while for me to find the right "mix" of stimulation that I know takes her over the moon. I just love her with all my heart and do not want her to feel inferior. What can I say or do to help. Everything I am saying right now seems to be backfiring and I don't want to hurt her. She means the world to me.

Most recently she tried something new which was SO good... the only issue was I had already cum earlier and had not yet "reloaded". I just want to be encouraging... She's very frustrated right now and I don't know what to do.

Thanks.

E

Next go round you need to start with your oral so you don't have to worry about trying to hold on without releasing, or reloading in time. Also you may need to help her and guide her where you need more stimulation you can assist her without talking just motion her the right direction. Good luck mrs going upward

[PatrickJW]

Hi there, guy here as well. Very similar situation with my lady in terms of both loving giving & recieving oral. I rarely ejaculate from just oral alone although she's really good at it. We just change it up a bit she has a real special thing called a "palm swirley" using all her fingers with the tip in the palm of her hand, that is uot of this world. Sometimes a combination of hand & mouth to change the stimulation. We don't stress about where the event takes place, we spend the time looking at each other as it does. We're lucky fellows that our honeys enjoy giving & recieving & have good communication around sex. Many couples don't have that at all, let alone as a routine part of their sex lives. The fact that shes as eager as she is, is sentiment enough that she's all your's and loving you up sweetly, I think. I'd tell her not to stress about it many guys have to finish the deed themselves into their honeys mouths because of the pressure they can apply to it.

[DreamP346]

As a woman with a partner that doesn't cum from oral, I can tell you where the frustration lies for me.

1) He never tries to cum from oral and just keeps saying that's just the way it is. The fact that he's given up is what I don't like
2) When I give him oral, he says its good, but I can tell from his tone its just so so.
3) He never asks for it.
4) He is too eager to get to intercourse if I am giving him oral.
5) When I am giving oral, he doesn't make sounds or say anything or act like he is really enjoying it. He usually has a blank face.

If you are doing any of these, even if unintentionally, she may be picking up on the idea that you are not going a good job, ie she is a bad oral lover. Try doing the reserve of the stuff above. Explain that oral stimulation just can't make you cum, but you really do like it. Then ask her to do something specific orally. Communicate during oral by asking her to do certain things or if she hits a certain spot to let her know to do it again. Shower her with compliments. Mention specific stuff she did that you really enjoyed. This shows her that you noticed what she did.

[time2discover]

Don't forget that we're all different! My man loves oral but for cumming will usually have to end it in the bed. He prefers to have the physical
contact at that point. Sometimes to help things along, he,ll play with me while i'm doing it. That helps!

[SpankedWife]

I don't think this is an unusual thing. If I only used my mouth while giving my husband oral, I'd end up with locked-jaw. LOL. He needs me to combine using my hand and mouth.
It's the same for me. I have a very hard time climaxing from oral, but no problem when he uses his hand.

[jns]

Getting oral may not work for a guy. I have only orgasmed one time from oral. I was standing, she was sitting and I controlled the rhythm. I suppose if we were both willing to work on it, we may have figured something out.