My issue might seem silly but here it goes. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life when he wants to have sex. Which is 2 or 3 times a week...normal right? Only problem is I can't get him to have sex with me when I want it but I am expected to give into him when he does. I don't mind giving in but sometimes it would be nice if he gave into me! So my question is is there anything I can do to persue him into sex when I want it? It's not that I want it more/less than him I just want it at different times? Any advice will be greatly appreciated! Thanks
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Oh and if I say anything to him he says I'm being stupid and makes me feel like my feelings don't matter and he doesn't qantto talk about it. -
If your boyfriend doesn't care what you want he's not a very great boyfriend sounds like he's selfish but you could discuss it and ask him why? Is there a reason or is he just being selfish but you said he gets mad when you talk to him so idk communication is always needed in a relationship. Do you ever try being sexy? with him dressing up sexy? Anything like that?Comment
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If he doesn't care about your feelings why are you with him?Comment
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That exactly what I was gonna say but I didn't wanna be meanComment
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I mean he cares but because he does feel bad when I get upset but it shouldn't get to the point to where I get upset. I feel silly complaining BC its not like we aren't having sex at allComment
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But he only seems to want to satisfy himself do you even get off during?Comment
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Yes he makes get off 95% of the time. Take last night for example... I have been extra turned on the last few day probably due to the fact I'm ovulating. I've been hinting and things at him that I want to have sex and he turns me down cold. So last night he knows I'm frustrated with him and he starts messing with me and he pleasures me orally but then didn't want to have sex afterwards which just made me more upset.Comment
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Did he know you were ovulating ?Comment
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Yes but its never stopped him and we are ttc. Another reason why it doesn't make sense. I don't know what to thinkComment
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