[nicolexx16]

My bf and i have been together for almost 5 years. we are 21 years old and had sex for the first time like 4 years ago. we dont have the chance to have sex a lot and since then when we try i get really jumpy and it hurts and burns when he puts the tip in. he has never fully gotten inside me. We have tried fingering, which he can do with 2 fingers with a little pain, dildos, which its a small skinny one that we do with little pain, lube, and condoms. i get generally very aroused and wet but just cant get it to go in. i believe he "popped my cherry" a while ago when he was fingering me. i really want to have sex with him and enjoy it. The last time we tried i sat directly on it but it still wouldnt go in.. when i feel it start to go in my body just jumps.. hes getting impatient and so am i. any advice please?


Thank you..

[Bladyn'smommy16]

Are you positive your hymen is is not still there?

[nicolexx16]

im almost certain it isnt. but if it is what should i do!?

[Bladyn'smommy16]

Well if its not what is the reason he can not stick it all the way in?

[time2discover]

In the situation you're in, I might consider going to see the doctor and getting
his opinion. It might be nothing but it will at least eliminate the physical aspect.
Then if that proves to be nothing, you'll have to look at maybe your personal
fears that could be causing this block. Our mind can play many tricks on us.
The worst thing though is letting it stress you. Eliminate all possible causes one
by one and trust that you will fix this. Positive thinking can help! Good luck.

[nicolexx16]

thank you!! i am 100% ready and want to i think its just nerves over powering and maybe that my hymen isn't broke. but its nice to hear opinions! thank you

[maverick]

My now wife and I had the same problem when we started out. I think that the "see the doctor" advice above is good, just to make sure that there is no physical issue. But I suspect that your "problem", you have already identified. Your "body just jumps". That means that your are tensing up and as strange as it sounds you need to relax. That's easier said than done when you are expecting pain. It's the bodies natural defense against pain. So try relaxing don't hold your breath and use plenty of foreplay. You did not say how you were using lube, but if you are just applying it to yourself, that is not the most effective way to do it. Apply it generously to him too (He won't mind!). Don't expect it to be like the movies, where people spontaneously seem to copulate with no foreplay or trouble "getting it in". That's entertainment, not reality. Relax, give it some time, and you should be fine. Best wishes for you.

[DreamP346]

Have an orgasm before he enters. That will really relax you.

[nicolexx16]

thank you so much!!! i was really worried ):